What to do with this 1-0

[scucci1979]

I think that says it all. LOL

Wendy if you read this I have followed your suggestion by pushing Madi's nap out close to 1pm, and capping it to 1.5hours.  Bt is still 8pm and she has been falling asleep within 15min(I think).
Anyhow, she is still insisting to go for her nap at 12:30pm. I really don't know what time she wakes up in the morning. Normally, when she wakes up she calls for me and this is between 6:30am-7am.  We had a few hiccups with 6am wups but she was quiet in her bed until I got her.  This morning, I don't know if Alyssa's screaming(5:45am) woke her up but by 12pm she was crying for her bed-literally. She called for me at 6:55am, so maybe Alyssa's crying didn't wake her. She has been crabby all morning and I have been losing my patience with her. The entire morning we have been yelling at each other. I feel so bad right now b/c she doesn't deserve to be yelled at.  I can't believe how difficult it is to be patient with two kids.  So besides that, I put her down at 12:40pm and honestly I don't know if I should cap it and do an early bt or let her sleep an extra 10min?

[~inbalance~]

I know it is hard to be patient sometimes.  I struggle with it too often enough! 

I'm a bit confused though as it doesn't seem like she is ready for the 1-0 if she is asking to go for a nap and is still going to bed at a decent time? 

How did today end up going?

[scucci1979]

Ideally I want her to wake up at her normal tim 7am. I guess 6:30am is not bad right?

She is such a bear to wake up from her nap. She pushes me away and tells me to leave.

[*Becky*]

She is such a bear to wake up from her nap. She pushes me away and tells me to leave.

we get that too Sabs even though he fights going down...not much fun eh.

[~inbalance~]

6:30 is not too bad (I hate seeing the clock before 7 too )

Has she always been hard to wake?  She sounds OT.    T is a bear when I wake him from naps if he is OT or if he's got something going on, i.e. sick.  So are you trying to cut day sleep in the hopes she will sleep longer in the morning?

[Tweakster]

Sabs what happens when you let her sleep 2 hrs for her nap?  Does she give bedtime resistance and/or wake earlier in the AM?  I agree if her behaviour is deteriorating she sounds a bit OT.  I don't think 10.5 hrs is at all uncommon for those kids still taking/needing a nap.  Unless you shift your day I don't think she's going to sleep until 7.  Or unless you cut the nap further of course but that's a slippery slope at times :-)

I can't recall why you cut the nap to start, was it to promote a longer night?  She might just be telling you she's not going to do that :-(

[scucci1979]

We cut the nap b/c she was waking up before 7am and taking a long time to fall asleep at night.  I haven't given her a 2hour nap in a while so I don't know how she will respond with an 8pm bt. I don't mind an 8:30pm bt! Today was the first day in ages that she actually woke up happy from her nap. 

ideally, I want her to sleep until 7am again. 

[~inbalance~]

Personally I would do a longer nap and a shorter night if that is what makes her happier, kwim?  Sounds like cutting it has led to some OT, I would not go the cutting route.  Isn't Madi high sleep needs?

[scucci1979]

Yup! She is hight sleep needs. This morning she woke up just before 7am and she was begging for a nap at 12:30pm. Could be b/c we were out all morning. If I go back to 2hr naps, bt is late.

Your comment makes perfect sense. She seems happier atm but I would love my 11hour + nights back.

[~inbalance~]

She seems happier atm but I would love my 11hour + nights back.

Ah yes, wouldn't we all!  LOL