what is making her click!!!?

[kikoz]

hi

DD has started nursery in September. She adapted easily and is very happy there.
I am a working mum- part time- 830-130, and I m able to pick her up between 12:30 and 1 ( I can finish whatever work left from home).
I also have the alternative to have our live-in nanny pick her up when i cant. i do my best to be the one to pick her up bc I love seeing her face so happy at the end of her school day.

DD takes her nap at 2 pm till 3:30 ( i wake her up).
her EASY is working well - she eats well he Brkfst and lunch and snacks and STTN. and has no trouble puting herself to sleep at bedtime.

the problem is the naptime. when "I" put her to sleep at 2, she starts crying and gagging and end up vomiting- BUT with the nanny, she sleeps easily with NO trouble at all!!! so im guessing its not a routine issue...

what is that i m doing wrong?! is she too excited that i m around now for naptime?! ( i only started being there fro her nap since she started going nursery-2months now)
its really driving me insane now! I lost it with her yesterday and i feel very bad about it.

I need to do smthg about it.

i know she is very tired and wants to sleep, i tried puting her a bit earlier for a longer winddown, story telling ets but no use. I tried talking it through with her- it worked fro a day or 2 but then here it is again.
I have tried to calm her down- sweet talking, kissing, ets nothing


maybe she wants me exclusively when we are home? ( the nanny is around when I am around and tends to chip in bc she is just used to it... )

i usually have a good "discipline" with dd- she is a good listenner and responds quite well to the two choices "ultimatum"but this is throwing me off!

any suggestions are very welcomed.

thank you!

[koe2moe]

awwww oh Chris!!!  just noticed your ticker!!! congrats!!!!  i dont have a clue on the nap front, we are still struggling lol...  so excited for u, not about nap, that is. lol

[Yazzie]

Congratulations Chris, no idea really about nap time, as you say I doubt its routine related, what do you guys do prior to nap time?

[kikoz]

Thank u koe2moe ) just added it today I love you ladies out here you just make me feel so good ))xxxxoxoxoxooxoxoxox
Yazzie, we have an hour before bedtime, so I have lunch she eats some fruits, sits on the potty, change nappy put pijamas then play a little before the nap.
I say its nt routine, bc she has no problem whatsoever
When I'm not around!!!
My MIL always tells kids are much more diffiicult with their parents around!
I see that! But can't I do smthg abt it!?
 

[Yazzie]

Agree that kids can be more diffcult, mmmm, I don't know, can u try and make the nanny disappear for that hour and see if it changes things at all?

[kikoz]

Yes, I thought about that... But wasn't sure.
Ill definitely give it try since u thought abt it too.
By the way, on weekends she s always been difficult, but rarely to that extreme of vomiting.
Ok thx ill give it a shot, on sunday since tomorrow the weekend here starts.
Thank you X

[Yazzie]

Good luck hun (k)

[kikoz]

Hi, things has been hectic lately. I think the whole tantrum develops bc of routine and attention seeking.
So on sunday, ihad the nanny "disappear" for an hour but also put her 15mins earlier, bc i saw she was tired and things went like magic.
But today, was a different story. It was dress up day at nursery, she came home very hyperactive. So I started winding down at 130 so she gets plenty of time to relax- but she was too hyper and she was not cooperating. And escalated, she didn't want to sit on the potty or put on pjs, when I gave two choices, she wouldn't choose and when she did she d change her mind in a split of a second. She of course started crying bc whatever I did, didn't work, and started kicking and pushing...I stayed calm of course, then picked her up and took her to bed, turned off the lights, this usually calms her down but this time it just made it worse. I tried to hold her, sing but nothing. I went out of room for less then a minute. Came back. She stretched her arms to me, so I held her and she finally relaxed and stopped crying. She slept at 2 and woke up happy.
Maybe she didn't want to wind down so early, but I think she was too electrified from the start, and it's usually a sign of tiredness.
145pm nap seems to work with her better than 2... It feels sometimes that some days she just wakes up at the wrong side of the bed, moody, testy, uncooperative and undecided. And some days she s all smooth like silk.
Patience is what is needed, but what can I DO to make it better?
Thanks for ur support x
 
   

[kikoz]

Hi, this was a routine issue after all.
For two days I'm putting at 130 instead of 2 and she is doing fine.
I got mislead bc of the nanny thing and bc when we started nursery her nap got naturally pushed to 2.
She was doing fine until recently.
I guess her body clock went back to normal after the initial excitment of the change wore out!...
Anyway, I'm glad its just a routine issue not a discipline issue! I was getting really thrown out.
I feel bad about not figuring out before, but there was no other OT signs... Although she was being more difficult on some days!
I hope this has solved things! Sometimes, I think, at least with my dd, that its always about her routine. And if we hadn't had a proper one, things would have been really bad. Dd really needs it and she alwasy got very upset when it wasn't the right one for her.
Thanks for ur support X

[Yazzie]

Wow...!..so so glad you were able to sort it out hun, it is true that some lo(s) need sticking to their routine more than others.