**warning a total essay splurge from me below sorry **
HI
me again. Well that last nap also lasted 30 minutes. I was thinking about posting our EASY but we've got so many different days, so I thought I would give some background first of things that have been going on lately.
1. DD has always been swaddled, for naps and BT but in the last couple of days we've changed swaddle styles so now instead of having her arms by her side or on her chest for naps we have the 'Love to swaddle up' where her arms are up in the natural sleeping position, we've kept the old style swaddle for BT. My thinking was to get her used to it in the daytime before trying it for BT, the long term goal is to wean her off it as I'm worried about her rolling over while swaddled.
2. As I've posted we've had a lot of AP with DD as I didn't discover BW until week 10 ish. We are also pretty certain we have silent reflux problems but she is on meds and they help a lot I'm happy it is under control. But all this meant we held her for naps and sleeping from the start but she now sleeps really well at BT in her cot in her swaddle. Our AP includes walking and jigging to sleep and holding for naps. I hold for the entire nap as when I try to put her down she wakes but for the last two days I've been putting her down in her cot (except for one nap extension when I caved and held).
3. I EBF until about 10 wks old, DD is now fully FF. If I look at the suggested measurements of how much she should be taking regarding her weight / age on Babycentre (or BW) she has never taken even the minimum suggested but has so far been on a steady weight gain. Am having her weighed tomorrow so will now better. Her first feed of the day is the best between 150 - 180 ml, from there on it can vary between 100 - 150 during the day, her last feed when she is really tired can be as little as 70 ml. We are trying to DF at 10pm but it can be as little as 20ml, on average about 60 ml unless my DH happens to accidentally wake her then she took 100ml
4. My husband does the morning first feed so I get a break and we've never quite nailed the hand over, I think he keeps her up too long.
5. BT / night sleep : thinking about it I think she had a growth spurt at 13wk as she suddenly started an extra 2 - 3 times at night hungry, then after 3 days she stopped and we had one night when she slept through, then she started waking for 1 NF at 3am instead of her usual two. This went on for a week but the last couple of nights she has started waking at 1am and 2am as well, I ignore the 1am and she usually goes back to sleep but the 2am is proving difficult so I leave to see if she will self settle , then do a nappy change before pushing it as close to 3am as poss. before feeding. She then goes down with no probs until she wakes for the AM.
So I am aware that in the last couple of days I've tried to move from 3.5 hr EASY, try a new swaddle and stop AP. When I write it down it does look like a lot for her to take on so maybe that's why naps have gone to pot, what do you think?. As I think I mentioned naps only used to be 45 minutes when in her cot but they are now 30 minutes.
EASY 3.5 on Sunday
5.15 Awake
5.25 90ml
6.50 awake
8.45 - 160 ml
9.15 - 11.30: AP nap held
12.15 - 145 ml
1.30 - 3 nap when out in pram
3.30 - 110ml
5.15 - 5.37 nap in cot
6.30 - 110 ml, good BT self settled to sleep
10pm DF - 70ml
EASY 4 hrs Monday
1am - woke left to settle
2am - woke used gentle PUPD to settle but no use
2.45 - fed 120 ml
7.05 - woke (late for DD)
7.15 - 180ml
9 - 9.45 nap in cot with new swaddle couldn't extend
10.45 - 110ml
11.55 - 12.25 nap in cot with new swaddle couldn't extend (phone rang, cats wailed all at key moments)
1.25 - 2pm - put to sleep on tummy in cot
2.20 - 150ml
3.30: grumbly and tired
3.57 - 4.30 nap in cot with new swaddle
5.50 - baby massage, dad comes home
6.15 - 110
6.40 asleep
10pm DF - 110 (as dad woke her up!)
2am awake, waited until 2.30 for nappy change, 2.45 to feed
then went into today which bares no resemblence to any EASY!
I think her A times are too long but I do start to act when I spot the yawns and she is good natured she only gets grumbly when tired in the afternoon/early evening.
Soooo, what shall I do about naps? keep on as I am? I have a winddown, pop her in her swaddle on the bed, close the curtains and blinds, pick her up and pop her in her cot, she starts to fuss, I start shhpat, she carries on fussing, I pick her up, slow dance with her for a few minutes, pop her back in her cot and she is starting to just go to sleep at this point I think out of exhaustion.
Problem starts when she wakes early from her naps - I'm all over the place about what to do. At the mo I do a mixture of shh pat and PUPD as per BWSAYP pg 231 Fourth Month Case Study. I know you say do shhhpat to extend but like you there is only so much patting my hand can take. But I can see she is tired as she is awake and yawning. AHHHHHH am driving myself mad!
Sorry, maybe I just needed to get it all out, what a rant.....
xx
