Moms, do you fight your los on letting them sleep in your room?

[scucci1979]

Many of you know that for months now Madi wakes up at night and comes into my room to sleep on her Cinderella bed. I don't have the energy ATM to deal with her as I am going through a lot and need to work on some things first before I tackle it. My goal is to get her back full time in her bed and wait until Mr. Sunshine comes on. i was going to to this by sleeping outside her room but again, I need to work on some things first before I tackle this.
ATM, I am getting more rest by letting her do this but the thing that really aggravates me is that if A wakes up after 6am and I go to her, Madi, freaks out and will not stay in her little bed.  I looked at her reward chart and in the last 2 weeks, she slept in her bed 4 times.

Just wondering for those moms out there, do you let your los sleep on your bedroom floor and if so, or if you have done it, how long did you let it last? 
I am just torn with this situation. A part of me says let it go until things settle down then another part of me says this is just wrong.

[We Three]

 I'm afraid only you know the answer hon.     I can tell you that if it were me, and I was at the same point that you are, I would let it go and let her sleep in my room.  Is it habitual now? Probably, but if you're not ready to tackle it, then it's really best that you don't....because then there's a chance you wouldn't follow through and that would just make everything worse.  Kwim?  Good for you for knowing that this isn't something you can tackle at the moment, and for that reason I think you have to just accept it for now.  Of course that's just me.   

[Nauvoo]

I wouldn't be uneasy about it at all.  Sounds like LO likes to be near you and I can guarantee in the future you won't regret letting her sleep in your room.  I would just let it go and work on it later when you have the stamina and the time.  On the bright side she's not in your bed kicking and  waking you up every few hours.  And I don't think it is "wrong" at all.  Some day may come when you will miss how she loves to be near you and so I say enjoy it now!

[scucci1979]

And I don't think it is "wrong" at all.  Some day may come when you will miss how she loves to be near you and so I say enjoy it now!

I really needed to read that.

Once I can get my stamina back, I plan to tackle it 100%.

 

[mokey_cat]

I would not worry too much about it. I find it hard when either one of my dds wakes early so I usually take them into my bed. its rare I wake without one of them there but I know a lot of people don't agree with what I do. but its easier for us, they share a room so wake each other and tbh I don't mind cos they r so little still. soon they will be too old for cuddles so I'm making the most of them 'needing' me.  How do you feel about m coming into your room? is it the worry of breaking the habit? or does she keep you awake? I know I 'should' get holly to stay in her bed every night but sometimes when you are tired that seems like the hard option x

[j.and.e]

I like the kids coming in, but only allow it in the am (after 5.30/6 when theyr not really tird enuf to go back 2sleep, bt i'm not ready 2get up). When either of them are ill and cant sleep they can sleep in my bed. I wouldnt want to have a visitor in the wee hours thou. I have a duvet and sleeping bag in ds2s room thou as i camp there if he needs me. I prefer this because when he settles i can sneak out and have my bedroom back xx

[Roseii]

I get into dd1's bed when she NWs Quickest and easiest way to settle her, I often fall asleep there but usually sneak out unnoticed xx

[*Jo*]

Caleb comes into my room most nights, jumps into bed wth me and goes to sleep, If i stay awake i will only let him stay there five mins before taking him back to his bed and hes fine with that, if I fall asleep then when I wake up i take him back. I used to do the same thing to my mum and I clearly remember it, i just wanted to feel safe for a period of time, once i had had my fill I was fine with going back to my bed. perhaps you can say to her (later on when you want to start dealing with this) "you can stay here but when its time to go back to bed, Mummy will take you" or something like that.
All i have ot do is say "back to your bed now honey" and he jumps out of bed and we walk back, i tuck him in, give him a kiss and leave.

[scucci1979]

I feel guilty when she comes into my room. We both go back to sleep and I don't hear a peep from her until she is about to wake up.  I feel like all that sleep training I did went down the drain! 

Normally she would want me to come to her bed and if I do she falls asleep pretty quickly but will wake up a few hours later looking for me. I know it is a comfort thing for her. It is so habitual for her now.