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Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« on: November 27, 2011, 08:00:05 am »
DD (2 years old) has never been a great sleeper and we've struggled with various sleeping issues since day 1 (literally, I was pacing the floors of the hospital with a screaming 24 hour old newborn whilst struggling to heal from a c/s). But with using happiest baby and BW techniques, we've managed to get through the issues, with some good weeks and some bad weeks/months. But for the most part almost every night we've had some sort of NW, at least once a night.

Until a month ago, she was getting a bottle of milk to put her back to sleep. For most nights she'd jut wake up the once and then go back to sleep straight after and we felt we could cope. But then the nw's got more frequent so a month ago we said that she was a big girl now she was 2 and big girls don't have bottles and if she woke up in the night she'd get water. She groaned at the idea, but has accepted it with little resistance. We switched her night night milk to night night water and she goes to bed fine with it. 

But she still wakes up at least once a night. We give her the water and an extra blanket if she complains she's cold, or teething gel if she complains her mouth hurts. but I would have expected that to be the exception, not the rule and for her to be sleeping solidly. Granted her NW never usually lasts more than 5-10 mins but DS is still a difficut sleeper and o we're actually getting up frequently in the night.

If this is normal and to expect her to ask for water etc once in the night then fine, otherwise, is there anything else I can do about this?

BTW she's still in a cot and she still has 1 nap (1.5 - 2 hrs from 1pm ish)



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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #1 on: November 27, 2011, 08:12:31 am »
Can u leave a nonspil bottle/cup for her? I wud not expect a 2yo to wake every nite, but my 2.5yo has been thru various phases of NWs with teething, bad dream, lost dummy, illness, potty, new baby etc. These are the 'bumpy' patches rather than the rule xx

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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #2 on: November 27, 2011, 10:51:01 am »
I also wouldn't say it was 'normal' to need to be waking for a drink in the night, no. But, it is quite typical for things to go fairly wonky at this age as their sleep needs change. It may be that she needs less daytime sleep.

Can you let us see your typical routine (wake up, nap time and length, bedtime)? Also, is she exactly 2, or older?
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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #3 on: November 27, 2011, 11:38:13 am »
I'm nervous of giving her a sippy cup in bed as I can imagine her getting up to all sorts with it at night. As she's still I a cot she doesn't have a bedside table to put one on.

Her typical day is:
A 7.30
S 1
A 2.30/3
S 7.45

At daycare they put her down at 12.30 and she'll wake at 2, she never does longer than 1.5 hrs nap there. But we've pushed her nap back at home cause she was sleeping less and waking up cranky if she went to bed at 12. That was a few months ago, now she is better at 1.5 he nap.

She is 26 months, so fairly young 2



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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #4 on: November 27, 2011, 13:27:20 pm »
Do you notice any difference in her nights on the days that she naps for longer than 1.5 hrs?

We had to start tweaking DS's day from a month or 2 before he turned 2. You may find that cutting the nap a little will help.
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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #5 on: November 27, 2011, 14:41:30 pm »
not really. But yes, she sleeps better when she's had a particularly busy day.



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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #6 on: November 27, 2011, 17:15:30 pm »
I think I would try cutting it back for a few days and see if it helps, possibly down to an hour - what do you think?
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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #7 on: November 27, 2011, 19:48:48 pm »
yeah, could try it i guess



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Re: Is NW normal - am I expecting too much?
« Reply #8 on: November 29, 2011, 11:35:14 am »
I am in the same situation as you.  My son has never really slept through the night without waking a few times all be it for a few minutes like yourself.  I think i have made the situation worse by giving him a drink as im certain he now wakes expecting this.  Sorry i cant be of much more help.