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Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« on: January 15, 2012, 01:48:13 am »
I am about to begin EASY with my 4wo LO.

From birth, she has been unable to fall asleep on her own in her bed, even if soothed.  Our current pattern is to rock her to sleep while holding her.

For the first few weeks she would nap up to 2 or 3 hours at a time and sleep up to 4 hours at night. Seemingly out of the blue this week she has been unable to nap more than 45 mins in her bed.  Nights are not much better.  Today she took two 2 hours naps while being held and rocked when she stirred.  I am pretty sure she is unable to transition through her sleep cycles because she is being rocked to sleep in our arms.

Will the pat/shush method help her transition?  Or are there other steps we should take??


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Re: Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« Reply #1 on: January 15, 2012, 03:32:59 am »
hey - you would be very lucky to find a wee one of that age doing that by themselves, so dont worry! You are doing well keeping EASY in mind at this age - and that is enough for now in a lot of ways. Teaching them they are safe, secure and to know what good long, secure sleep feels like is more important at this age than getting them to sleep on their own yet.
At this age they don't actually have sleep cycles as such, these come in around 4 months, from what I understand - so their sleep times can vary a lot.

I found using swaddling, white noise and wearing my little man in a wrap or letting him sleep on me was great for teaching him how to sleep well and how to fall asleep. As he got older (around 6-8 weeks) I would put him down and jiggle him awake slightly so he was in his bed as he fell asleep. But we still often had naps on me or daddy.

I would read The Happiest Baby on the Block for this age group, and keep the EASY (or eat play sleep) idealogy in your mind to prevent issues when her sleep cycles mature.

I think the best advice I ever got was "you cannot spoil a newborn". Up to around 12-16 weeks they are really just old fetuses (!) and need to know what safety and relationship is before they can feel safe enough to try things (like falling asleep) on their own. Some miracle babies seem to "get it" from birth - or at least are chilled enough to just go to sleep anywhere - but lots and lots need lots of parenting and love before they can make that next step.

Enjoy this tiny baby phase, it is over so quickly. Do whatever it takes for now and good on you for being so aware of what you need to be ready for in a few weeks time
First baby boy born March 2011 :)

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Re: Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« Reply #2 on: January 15, 2012, 05:22:21 am »
Excellent advice Louise ;)

Enjoy those newborn snuggles and do not worry about independent sleep just yet... if she gets any sleep on her own, she is doing just fine for her age ;)



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Re: Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« Reply #3 on: January 15, 2012, 18:26:43 pm »
Thanks for your replies, ladies! :)

I am a bit confused as my LO *was* taking longer naps in her crib (1-2 hours) but now only sleeps 30-45 mins.  Any thoughts on what might have changed? (I've racked my brain!) Sometimes when she wakes from a nap we are able to soothe her back to sleep quickly so it seems like she needs more sleep but just can't quite go as long as she was.  Thoughts?

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Re: Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2012, 21:05:53 pm »
Oh she's a perfectly normal 1 month old! And she will change again and again and you will think you have it all Sussed and shell change again! Just go with it and enjoy the long naps and don't stress about the short ones at is age.

Babies start developing a rhythm around 6 weeks and you suddenly realize they are being slighty consistent. But this changes all the time too! Just do what works for now and let her be awake and feeding or playing if she wants and sleeping if she wants, keeping in mind the eat play sleep philosophy wherever you can, but again not worrying if it's not perfect or even close to perfect yet

Naps will change so much for the next couple of months and then once she envelops sleep cycles they become more regular. If you have the rhythm of eat play sleep in before four months you should be fine
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Re: Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« Reply #5 on: January 15, 2012, 21:07:02 pm »
Ps don't forget growth spurts!! Around this age my wee man decided he needed to feed every half hour for 2 days. Other babies spread it out over a week. It's all normal and nature takes care of getting things back on track again.
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Re: Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« Reply #6 on: January 15, 2012, 21:50:57 pm »
Thanks!  She took another long nap (2 hours) today while being rocked (compared to 30 min ones while in her bed) so it seems that she just has trouble sleeping in the daytime in her bed... I wonder if allowing her to fall asleep in her bed would help her stay asleep?

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Re: Transitioning through sleep cycles: is pat shush enough??
« Reply #7 on: January 15, 2012, 22:47:02 pm »
Definitely when she's older, not sure for now though. If you do put her down into bed it pays to jiggle her awake a little bit just so she opens her eyes slightly instead of being fast asleep. But in the meantime practicing long sleeps on yours great too
First baby boy born March 2011 :)