Author Topic: Most moms I know think I'm WAY overboard with naps! They think I'm nuts. Am I?  (Read 1223 times)

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Offline jennfl

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It's very strange to me that the only moms I seem to know who are very "nap conscious" (spelled that wrong I think), are the moms I chat with on this board and a couple of others.  I know only one other mom who abides by her child's nap schedule pretty religiously like I do.  So, I get lots and lots of critisism from my friends and my sister about being crazy when it comes to naps.

Anyone else?

I have a thought too.  I've been "schedule focused", or "routine focused" since my son was a few weeks old.  He's now almost 6 months.  I've been so scared of him getting over tired that I've worked hard to avoid it at all costs.  My sanity has taken a beating!  Yesterday, I threw caution to the wind and put my son in the car right as his nap in his crib should be starting because it was my dear friend's son's first birthday party.  He slept in the car for 30 mins on the way there, which I knew he would.  He would have gotten over an hour in the crib.  When we got there he was fine.  I was there for 2 hrs and he was as happy as a clam.  In the car he barely fussed on the way home.  He isn't a cry baby, so he doesn't fuss much anyway.

I gave him a catnap after he'd been awake for 2 1.5 hrs and I think he could have stayed awake even a bit longer.

I had him in bed at 6:50pm and he slept 11 hrs.  Pretty typical for him.  Usually it's between 11-12 hrs.  Total nap time yesterday was just 2 hrs.  A.M. nap of an hour and two 30min cat naps.

So, should I be more relaxed or stick to our regular routine?  I guess I worry about cummulative over tiredness that I've read about.  Baby can seem to do ok here and there with less sleep, but if it happens over time they can become progressively over tired and NW can be a result or chronic EW.

Just curious as to thoughts on this.

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I think it pays to be flexible. It seems like a shame to miss out on fun stuff for naps, for both of you. If we had a busy day, I try to schedule a quiet day at home for the next day so that we can recharge/catch up a bit.





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I think the odd day out here and there is probably good for you both but I do stay in for most naps. dd just does not nap out and about and we both seem a lot happier if we stick to a consistent routine with naps at home. x




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Yup I agree, we try to stay home for most naps and things got so much easier once DD1 was on one nap a day.  That being said if there was something special or fun going on we would usually go and just make sure we stayed home the next day to get back on track!  Sounds like he did great though!!
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I think flexibility is a good thing! (if your baby's temperment allows for it anyways)  My oldest was, in hindsight, a very flexible baby with her easy and going out, but I wasn't being a first time mom (plus we lived in a tiny village and DH had the only car at work, so I couldn't go anywhere). DD2 was not flexible at all, taking her out was pure torture so I avoided all but necessary trips.   
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I think you need to be flexible. What I try to do is to schedule one activity per day or if we're out and about the whole day, try to keep it low key the next day so that you don't mess it up.


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I totally think you need to be flexible. At that age we'd have a day at home the day after being out and about.  This is the age where they start learning so so much about their world and while sleep is very important, so are getting lots of different experiences and learning about the world. 





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I am working on becoming more flexible.  I get the feeling my son can handle it.  He's done well the few times he's gotten short naps in the car instead of a "real" nap at home.  It's hard to just let go and experiment sometimes.  I like the idea of staying on routine most days, but getting out and off track here and there.  I guess I have to stop worrying about it so much.
Thanks for the replies!

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I  started with 1 day a week.  We went to a baby signing class right when the first nap should have been and once i realised she coped ok it gave me the confidence to do more things.  It is important to get out and about, for you as well for bubs x