Help 10 month old won't go down for naps anymore

[D2323]

HI, I could really use some help after spending the last hour and a half putting my 10 month old down for a nap. All of a sudden she is a bear to put down and I can't figure out what to do. She takes two naps and the first one is worse going down than the second. Here is what I have tried:

I have tried patting her and repeatedly laying her down when  she pops up which eventually will work after an hour or so.
I have tried just leaving the room and letting her roll around and play until she starts crying which again can last over an hour
I have tried extending her A time which was already 4 hours. Today because it took over an hour to get her down she ended up awake for over 5 hours.
I have tried decreasing A time to make sure it wasnt over tiredness.

I'm completely at a lose and need some help!!
Here is our typical EASY (which obviously looks different when it takes me so long for her to go down)

6:30-7 wake bottle
A and Solids
10:30-11 nap 1 1/2 hours
wake bottle
A and solids
2:30 -3 nap - this napped is capped at 45 min to an hour because of early waking issues
3:30-4 wake
A and solids
7:30 bed

any help would be great!! I don't know what to do and why it has changed all of sudden. I feel like she is too early to be on completely one nap and would get really cranky in the evening if I tried. She is already cranky with the last nap being capped.

[*Kara*]

She could be in the last phase before the move to one nap hun...

I would push her AM nap out  - 4 hrs is pretty standard for a 10 month old... so push her to 4 hrs 15-30 mins for a few days and see if things improve.  Could be that she is UT when you put her down, but then she becomes OT and starts to cry after a long time in the crib...  an extra 15-30 mins should get things back on track.

I wouldn't wake her since this nap will be already close to mid-day!  Let her hit the 3 hr mark, then wake.  If she wakes after 1 hr 30-2 hrs, allow a CN late afternoon to get her through to bedtime.

[D2323]

Thank you. I've done both of those scenarios. The other day she went down later and slept an hour and a half then had a cat nap in the p.m. Yesterday she was awake almost 5 hours and then woke at an hour and a half but wasn't really ready to get up so I layed her back down and helped her sleep and repeated this a couple times until she had been down for about 2 1/2 hours (which is how much she was sleeping total with two naps). I guess everyone I talk to didn't go to 1 nap until later. Is 10 months too young for 1 nap or is it ok?

[*Kara*]

It is early, but not impossible.  You may find that she will alternate.. or just have the odd day with one nap and a really early bedtime...

[D2323]

I'm still struggling at at a bit of a loss. Lately my LO has bee staying up about 5 hours in the a.m. she won't go down before then. Then she has still been waking at 1 1/2 hours. I try to get her back down and have been successful once but it usually doesn't work or only lasts about 10 minutes. Then I try to give her a cat nap in the afternoon, which she refuses. She can be happy and wide awake or looking very sleepy, it doesn't seem to matter. We will go through wind down routine and I will lay her down and sometimes she looks like she is going to go to sleep but then she starts rolling around, laughing, and talking to herself. I have tried patting her, leaving the room, nothing seems to work. This goes on for up to 45 minutes before I give up because it is getting too close to her dinner and bedtime. I don't know what to do and I really feel like 1 1/2 hours is not enough day time sleep. Any help??

[*Kara*]

Yikes! It does sound much like a regression or something developmental to me... how is she when she wakes from the 90 min nap?  Happy, or still tired?

[D2323]

It's 50/50 with being tired or happy. Sometimes she is happy and ready to go and others she a bit groggy

[*Kara*]

Have you ever done set nap time with her?  It might be the quickest way to reset her body clock...

What time does she usually wake in the AM? and how are her nights?

[D2323]

I attempted a set nap but because she is so unpredictable about how long it will take her to go down it makes it very difficult. If I try for 11:30 she may go down then or it may take until 12:30. She plays and rolls when put in the crib and won't go to sleep. I've tried earlier and later naps so I don't think it's under or overtired. She also does this at bedtime. I"m just so confused. One of the problems I run into is if she only sleeps 1 to 1 1/2  hours for her first nap, I try to give her a second cat nap. However, since she rolls around and plays sometimes we run into the problem that it has been over an hour attempting to get her down and we are getting too close to bedtime so I have to get her up. and then she only gets that short first nap all day.  She is good at night and sleeps generally from 10 1/2 to 11 1/2 hours. It just varies.  What would you suggest for the set nap??

[*Kara*]

Is she happy all morning or does she seem tired as the morning goes on??

I just can't imagine that she can be ready for a 5 hr A time yet..

[D2323]

She is happy and when i try to put her down earlier she won't go down

[D2323]

I'm really getting desperate is taking over an hour everytime she goes down and I don't know what to do!!! ON the times it takes really long it means she is awake for way over 5 hours which isn't good for her but I don't know how to get her down more quickly when she just refuses.

[*Kara*]

Well.. if she outright refuses to go to sleep, not much you can do really...  I would maybe try splitting the difference with her.

What does your typical day look like right now in terms of EAS?