Thanks for your response!!!
Here is a breakdown of into today. We got wake time stretched today and it seems like it may have done her well!! It might be too soon to tell but she's napped for 2.5 hours )with one brief waking at first sleep cycle). I did my best taking notes yesterday but certainly lacked detail as I didn't have much time. Here's what I got written (some have no descriptions of her mood etc., just what EAS happened at what time.)
E 6:30 Wake up, nurse
A 6:45-8:20 Diaper change, play with dad, dad put in swing to try to get her to sleep
S 8:20-9:00; 9:20-10:20 Dad brough back to room for sleep. Cranky. Nursed (*E) until very drowsy to calm her down, then rocked to sleep
E 10:20-10:30
A 10:30-12:00
S 12:20-1:00
E 1:00-1:10
A 1_10-2:10
S 2:30-3:20
E 3:20-3:35 Woke up bawling. Tried to rock back to sleep with no luck.
A 3:35-6:30!! Nap FAIL! Would not go to sleep after waking. Took walk in sling to try and encourage nap, even this didn't work!
S 6:30-7:30 Went down pretty easily then work 25 minutes later, went down again until 7:30ish. Tried to get her to stay in bed but she cried and cried until I took her out.
E 8:00-810 Nurse
A 8:10-8:30 Sat on couch with mom and dad
S 8:30-1:30am Very OT at 8:30. Screaming! Attempted to bounce, sing, rock, cuddle. Finally fell aslep at 10:05pm. Wake at 1:30 crying (not usual "MILK" cry, but really crying. Comforted and nursed *out of habit*) back to sleep until 4:00am, nursed. Up at 5:45.
Today
E 5:45-6:00 Nurse
A 6:00-6:15 Play
S 6:15-8:30 Sleep. Asleep at 6:30-8:30
E 8:30-8:47 Eat. Finished one side, only took a little from other.
A 8:47-10:15 Play. Trying to stretch A time, put in swing at first signs of tired (rubbing eyes with luvie) around 9:30. Distracted her with walkig around house, showing toys, talking softly.
E*: offered breast before nap, ate some from one side (about 3 minutes).
S 10:15-12:50 Nap!! Cried when brought to room, seemed overtired. After 15 minutes of nap routine, soothing lullaby, and soft bouncing asleep at 10:30. Woke at 11:05, shush pat back to sleep. Still asleep at 12: 50.
She seems to be eating more at feeds, but she is still very distracted during the day. I'm doing my best to offer breast at start of each A time, and if I think she needs to eat, I offer before starting nap routine. She had a STRONG nipple-sleep association which I'm trying to keep her away from now because it was getting exhausting that no one else had a chance to put her to sleep, and I think we were both confused between her needs for eating and sleeping. She's doing well without the association, but I do nurse her when she's so overtired she can't settle and it seems to help.