13 month old WAS sleeping great...e

[Abouze7]

Hi there! My 13 month old DS was doing so well when it came to sleep. We'd go upstairs he would lay in his crib and pop in a pacifier and Id leave the room and he's be asleep within minutes. Last week he all of a sudden refused to sleep in his own. He screams bloody murder when I leave him on his own in his room now. He wants to fall asleep in my arms or in the crib with my hand on his back. And sometimes if he wakes up through the night he wants us to be there hovering over his crib while he falls asleep.
He was literally textbook.

Wake up 730
Nap at 1030
Up at 1230
Nap 330
Up at 500
Bedtime at 830


Please! What should I do from here?

[Buttonbobs]

Hi there, if he's starting to fight naps and BT it could be the beginning of the 2-1 transition. A 3 hour A time is pretty short for a 13 month old. I would imagine he's fighting as he's just not quite tired enough to nap at those times and the build up of UT might lead him to sleep less well with NWs etc. what do you think?

You might like to read this thread:
From 2 to 1 nap transition (10-12m and older)
Then decide whether you're going to shorten the morning or the afternoon nap. I went for a long morning nap with my DD as she didn't take consistently good naps so it was worth knowing we could always do a longer pm nap if needed. You'll need to extend A times at the same time, so that your LO is more ready for sleep when you put him down. Hopefully you'll get over the resistance.

Just another thought, is there any chance he's teething? We always have more clinginess and fussing with teething.

[Abouze7]

I do think he's teething. Plus I recently went back to work and he has been staying with his grandma during the day and I'm pretty sure she rocks him to sleep too. I think it's just a lot of changes and he's having a tough time dealing with it. Should I continue to cuddle him to sleep for the time being?

[Buttonbobs]

Has he been able to fall asleep independently before? If so, do you think you could  speak to grandma about following the methods you have been using at home? I appreciate this is hard, but if you want your DS to sleep independently at home he will need some consistency.

If you feel he needs the comfort at the moment, then I'm not going to tell you to refuse cuddles go with it, you can always do a bit more sleep training when you feel he's more settled. He's for quite a lot going on at the moment so perhaps with teething too he might need a bit more comfort. ((Hugs)) for you too x

[Abouze7]

You're right it's hard to tell Grandma how to put him to sleep since he had 6 of her own I feel like I can't make suggestions without being offensive.
Thanks for the advice.

[Buttonbobs]

I do understand how you feel honey, but this is your child. My mum had four children and when she offered to help with childcare I did want her help, but also wanted to do things my way. I said to her as gently as possible that I did really want her help and that I hoped I could be as great a mum as she has been to me, but that I need to be the mum and make the decisions about how to do things for E.

She was on board generally but there have been a couple of times she's not quite agreed with something and we've had to have a brief word to get back on track.

Whether or not you decide to say something, I (& I'm sure others if need be) will hold your hand through the process.

More (((hugs)))

[Abouze7]

Hugs back!