10 week old - 45 minute naps - at my wits end!!

[gb18]

My 10 week old DS has been napping for 45 mins for the last 3 weeks and I feel like I am making no progress to improve this.

I am pretty sure he is spending most of his time over tired and I am trying to adapt A times accordingly. Most of the time he is never up more than an hour before trying to settle again, although he is normally up 1hour 15 mins am.

The morning nap is less of a struggle to settle him for but he will only ever sleep 45 mins and will not resettle with shh/pat despite trying or giving him a dummy (paci). He normally wakes happy but then starts the cycle of being tired before next feed is due. I try to make sure that I feed him then slightly before 3 hours (around 15 mins early) and then cuddle to try and settle him and then put him down for a nap. He normally resists a lot, lots of screams. I am sure he is probably overtired. Sometimes he will sleep and again, only for 45 mins and unable to resettle.

He will sleep in his rocking/swing chair but I obviously am trying not to encourage this. I am at rare times using a dummy (paci) when he is very unsettled as this at least relaxes him
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He can settle himself independently at night. I do feed him before bed but he always goes down awake and settles himself.

I feel like nothing is working!! This is getting me really upset. Before I tried extending naps and EASY routine DS seemed to be happier and I am worried all I am doing is making him unhappy!!!

Greatful for all advice! I have posted before regarding NW and EW - this has much improved thankfully. He now wakes twice a night for feeds and settles straight back to sleep.

[nona]

Have you tried wake to sleep?

He is still itty bitty. It shd get better!!! I remember feeling frustrated at this time too.

[gb18]

I have not tried wake to sleep consistently, mainly because I am worried I will wake him and he will then not go back to sleep!! What time should I try the wake to sleep - at about 40 mins?

I did try it a couple of time and he make a noise and moved his arm. Do I need to wake him more that that? Will he then still wake at 45 mins after that wake up?

Sorry lots of questions!!!

Did your LO just increase their nap time on their own?

[nona]

The BW solves all your problems book shd describe the technique. There is prob a topic on that on the sleep board. It's been awhile since I've used it. I'm pretty sure it's around the 35-40 minute mark.

What happens if your lo wakes and you don't rush in?

[gb18]

He stays settled for a little while, kicks around but never goes back to sleep. He would happily lay there probably for at least 15 mins or more at times. Just seems strange to me that he will settle himself easily at night times - I know that he wakes up at night as can hear him - but wont do the same during the day. The setting is exactly the same.

[nona]

Naps are a developmental thing. Have you read healthy sleep habits healthy child? It explains when they develop a morning nap and  pm nap. Great book when you are pulling out your hair!

I'd keep doing what you are doing and he shd start taking longer naps.

Hope someone pops on here. I'm not an expert!!