Hello once again. My 14 month old has been down to 1 nap for the past few weeks after am nap refusal for a month. She goes down at 12:30- I have a 3 year old as well who goes down wonderfully at 1 thanks to using bw with her (angel textbook though as compared to my spirited toddler). We have gone with set naps and bedtime since she does not go down earlier or tack on during the night. Naps she goes down pretty good (ot I know but hard to work around with sibling). I can easily resettle her at the 1 hour mark just by going in and saying lay down. She then sleeps till 2:30 sometimes even 3:00! So we get about 2-2.5 hour nap even though it's not straight through. She is asleep for the night by 7:00 (my hubby does this for me) but then the nws begin. Sometimes as early as 9:30, sometimes not till 11:30, but after that it's a couple times throughout the night and then starts the day between 5:30-6:30 at which time I turn the lights if I can't resettle and give her some toys to play with in her crib and then I try to get 20 more min of sleep myself.
For awhile I was sleeping on the floor in her room cause I had to have my hand on her back to get her to resettle. I have had some success with gradual withdrawal and now I'm doing walk in walk out. Problem now is I walk in, she is always standing and crying, she sees me and drops back down and settles. What's the next step. It's 4-5 nw, easy enough to get her back down since she just has to see me, but not a good solid night for either of us. If I let her fuss than its 45 min to get her back down so I have been rushing in (bad I know) just so I don't have the long night battle. My hubby wants to start with controlled crying (wait 3 min then go in, wait 5 min then go in, 7 min, 10 min)
What is my next step?