Thanks for the replies. On reading my first query you're right that there was no "usual" days which is why I was so overcome with emotion and exhaustion at the weekend!
However, Monday morning I made sure lo slept in the morning and that made afternoon sleep better, same on Tuesday and we've regained some of the ot ground I think as lo is much more settled in herself again. Yesterday's schedule is detailed at the end of this post.
I have the reflux under control. Not using any meds other than gaviscon when needed as I've been keeping a detailed food diary and know what to give her or not and same re my food.
This weekend we are going to start formal sleep training and removal of boob. I'm just getting some rest myself ahead of it.
However, I do have some questions that I've not been able to find answers to on any forum pages or either BW books...
1. What is best time to start sleep training? Night time or morning? Only that I know if I start in morning DD is very likely to go all day without napping at all not even 5 min. Just the book says keep doing PU/PD for full nap time and if baby only sleeps for 10 min then ok, still wake her up and stick to the routine. However, what do I do in the case of no sleep? Do I stop trying and stick to the routine, so it's lunch time then continue the day in total over tiredness? Or do I keep trying to get lo to sleep?
Then when we do PU/PD at all lo will wriggle, arch her back, fight, hit out etc. If I put her down she will get even more upset (yes that's possible!) and do her really upset cry which I've never managed to calm her from other than feeding or maybe taking her out of the bedroom to have some play time... as she gets herself into a blind rage and panic and it's no longer about being tired. How should I deal with this because I find it extremely upsetting.
So that I know what I'm getting into, am I basically going to let her get so tired that she eventually gives in (perhaps after 24 hours
!!!) then repeat until the hours awake drop? On PU/PD I'm not sure I'll ever get her to quiet enough to do a PD
If I want to go out either for walk or in the car, should I do it during A or S time? Especially when lo hasn't slept she is likely to fall asleep in the car. Then if she falls asleep in the car do I just wait until she wakes or wake her when I get to destination (usually only 10-15 minutes from home)
Also, her bed has been in our room since she was born as it's been easier for me with night feeding and reflux etc. And her cot set up like a bed nest so that I've had the benefits of co sleeping with lo in her own bed. Should I put her bed in her room at the same time and starting the sleep training and not have to face another problem later on? She is familiar with her own room as we dress her in there and have some playtimes in there too.
And the book says a 4 hour EASY. However, what I cannot figure out is when should baby get milk versus food?? I'm still primarily bF and want to continue as long as possible.
Sorry for all the questions but I really want to do this once and do it right!
Thanks a million. Looking forward to getting some suggestions as to what my plan needs to look like (and how full my freezer needs to be for my own sustenance!)
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0600 wake & BF
06:00-07:30 A
07:30-07:45 E
07:35-08:20 S
08:20-10:30 A with try for breakfast at 09:00 but baby didn't eat much (not surprising)
10:30-10:45 E
10:45-11:00 S
11:00-12:00 A
12:00-12:30 E lunch
12:30-15:00 A (were out)
15:00-15:30 E bottle - were in car ok way home. Baby doesn't sleep in car often
15:30-15:40 E (just to get to sleep)
15:40-17:15 S
17:15-17:30 A
17:30-18:00 E Dinner
18:00-18:45 A
18:45-19:30 A - Bath & change
19:30-20:00 E feeding to sleep
20:00-20:45 S
20:45-21:00 E (after trying reassure and pat to sleep)
21:00-23:00 S
23:00-23:10 E
23:10-01:50 S
01:50-03:00 feeding for 15 min in total during this time, lots of reassurance and patting to get baby back to sleep. Finally settled when I lay beside her
03:00-08/00 S
