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Offline beth33

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Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« on: February 17, 2014, 08:09:18 am »
I'd like to stick to DS's naptime 6+ days a week on a normal week, i.e. I'm willing to push things one day a week to allow us to do things that are tough to plan around a noontime nap. DH doesn't care what I do for naps during the week (I'm a SAHM), but thinks it's more important to expose DS to a variety of experiences and wants to push naps during the weekend to facilitate that.

DH acknowledges that sleep is important for mood, cognative function, and data processing in general. He's just not convinced that disrupting two of DS's seven naps a week is problematic.

My argument to DH is that (1) sleep is really important, (2) pushing naps too often (and two days a week is too often, especially consecutive days) results in an OT little one, which means he won't sleep as long when we eventually get him down, which means that he's actually losing out on sleep time, and (3) that loss will have a real impact on DS.

DH has an analytical mind and will be much more likely to make DS's naps a higher priority if I show him studies or other trustworthy sources of information illustrating why sleep is important. Specific info like "a daily sleep deficit of 1 hour is associated with a 30% higher chance of developmental delays" (I totally made that up, btw) will be much more convincing to him than general statements like "sleep is important for cognition." Does anyone have any articles or websites that you can point me towards? I'm especially interested in information on the harmful effects of even small amounts of sleep loss, such as this study http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/3696323?uid=3739696&uid=2&uid=4&uid=3739256&sid=21103518375213 indicating that the neurobiological function of children who slept an hour less dropped to the level of children two years younger.

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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2014, 08:23:19 am »
Hi hun!

Im not sure about data, sorry! But, if my kids miss 2 days worth of naps, it would definately cause NW's for us (not sure for you?) would your DH be willing to tend to your lo during those NW's? If so then id go with his plan to not nap for 2 days!

My OH has in the past said, oh its only one day whats the issue. And i would say, he wont sleep well tonight. And OH has said he would be fine. Lo and behold, bad night, point proven! He gets it now, just based in those facts we both witnessed!

Sorry dont have any data but just wanted to mention that 😀
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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #2 on: February 17, 2014, 08:41:46 am »
How old is your LO hun?  I think that's a big factor.  DD is 25 months and has, on occasion missed two naps in a row.  Usually because family are around and she wants to do something fun rather than sleep!  We just stick to a shorter day those days ie EBT and there may be one or two NWs, but honestly it doesn't take us that long to get back on track again.  The third day she's definitely tired enough to sleep and we'll normally let her have a touch longer than usual.  I think (and btw am totally shocked at myself for saying this as I am seriously a plan-around-naps kind of girl!) that sometimes life has to just happen, and I've found as DD has got older that a messed up day or two has less impact than it ever used to.

This site might have something useful for you though: http://www.parentingscience.com/baby-sleep-tips.html

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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2014, 15:50:46 pm »
Thanks for your replies so far. DS is almost 14 months. Just for clarification, DH isn't saying he should miss his nap entirely for two days, just that he should be able to take it at, say, 1 or 2 pm rather than noon. DS doesn't seem to sleep as well or as long when we try to do that, though.

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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #4 on: February 17, 2014, 16:04:07 pm »
IIWM I'd give the later nap a go on say the Saturday if that fits in better with your plans and if it all goes pear shaped (nap plus following night) then you could change your plans for Sunday accordingly. You'll prob find as your LO gets older you can be much more flexible with nap times eg once or twice a week.
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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #5 on: February 17, 2014, 16:04:52 pm »
Ah ok I see, yes he would still need a nap in that case.  If he takes a later shorter nap you could go for an earlier BT by 30-60 mins and see if that helps hold off the OT over the weekend? 

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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #6 on: February 18, 2014, 04:51:24 am »
Cathn, thanks for your thoughts. It's challenging to make plans to meet people on Sunday and then change them on Saturday night if LO's sleep seems off, you know? I'd rather make sure that Sunday's plans wouldn't interfere with LO's naps. Which means convincing my DH that is the best course of action. Which means finding convincing data :)

Jessmum46, yes, that's what I'll probably try to do on the days when we can't avoid pushing the naps.

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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #7 on: February 18, 2014, 05:17:17 am »
I wonder if the article discussed here would help?
http://figur8.net/baby/2009/10/26/nurture-shock-chapter-2-the-lost-hour/

Although it's more about the ( long term effects) of too little night sleep every night in older LOs than the odd short nap each week.
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Re: Why is sleep important? Help me find data to convince DH.
« Reply #8 on: February 18, 2014, 05:40:29 am »
I haven't read all the replies but "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" Is what got me on board with making sure my dd gets enough sleep. I ignored the CC and just read the science  ;)
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