Is set naps working? I can't tell.

[afranklin]

Hi friends,
My love is 20mos.

I'm trying set naps again. And well... we're in day 5 and I can tell the OT is building. Sometimes NW and I'm supposing OT EW (not waking up happy and less than 11 hr nights). He's napping 2 hrs, but waking up crying. And now for BT he's having more and more trouble getting to sleep. Is this to be expected... is this okay? Do I keep going?


This is my target schedule:
7:30 WU
12:50 in bed (not capped)
7:45 in bed. Takes him 30m to sleep lately.
So that's the opportunity for an 11hr 15m night, and he can nap 2+ hours.

The OT is building b/c he's waking up around 7 and not taking long enough (apparently) naps. So his first A is ending up around 6+. I wouldn't mind at all if he just didn't need to sleep to 7:30, and didn't need more than 2 hr naps, but it doesn't appear to be so.

What got me last time I did set naps is that +/- stuff. I CAN'T tell when that is needed. I shuffle him around the clock so much that he doesn't know which end is up and he gets UT/OT loops and it's a hot mess. So this time, I'm not wavering on the schedule more than 15m at BT.

Encouragement, hope, changes?

Thank you immensely.
Amanda

[HenaV]

Hi I'm just wondering go if the nap is too late and causing your issues. Any chance if pulling it forward and setting it earlier?

Hena

[afranklin]

Hi Hena,
Thank you for your reply!

I'm fairly certain that if his first A is less than 5.5, the nap will be UT. Though sometimes it's hard to tell if it's an OT or UT waking from the nap. 5.5 first A is the ideal, and I do think 6 is too much! So if he wakes before 7:30 it's pretty long.
Amanda