Coming out of bed

[cgf]

So, my 2.5 year old son figured ouw how to climb out of his crib.. I"m sure this topic came up plenty before, but cant find any threads! I moved him to a big boy bed with a rail because the tumbling out of the crib was getting dangerous. Now we are dealing with a two-pronged problem.. it takes forever for him to fall asleep, what with the popping out of his bed at bedtime, and also he is coming out in the middle of the night. Ive been trying to keep it as low-key as possible, not giving him much attnetion at all, just promptly putting him back in. As far as getting him to sleep, ive been sitting outside the door until he is asleep, just continously putting him back in as he comes out. is this the right approach? Is it "feeding into it"? What does the BW suggest for such a situation! Ugh, we were in such a good place, we had bedtime down to a 15 minute routine :0 Also, I'm not sure if I'm jumping the gun here, but I'm wondering if maybe his daytime nap is too long for him at this point? Iveo only felt this way ever since his going to sleep became an issue because of his climbig out.. its taking him so long to wind down that im wondering if perhaps hes sleeping to omuch during the day? Or is that completely not related? As of now he wakes up between 7 and 730, naps at about 1-230ish and bt is 730-8.


Any and all advice appreciated!! TY so much.

Any and all advice appreciated. Thanks!

[lauradj]

Hi there!  I will readily admit I don't have a lot of BTDT experience on this front, my LO is only 15 months.  However, it does sound like you're making steps towards fixing the problem by not engaging your son in any conversation when he gets up in the middle of the night.  Something Tracy does suggest is making a game out of getting your LO to stay in their room.  You could set a timer or use a Groclock or a digital clock.  Keep the times short at first and when your LO meets the goal give them a sticker.  If they get 3,5 etc in a row, they get a reward like going to a new park.  Once he figures out he'll get praise for staying in his room, then you can try to move towards the, 'staying in your room until whatever time in the morning' scenario.  Tracy suggests that whatever time you agree upon, set your alarm for a half hour earlier so you can be there to go into his room as soon as the alarm goes off and praise him for staying in his room all night. 
Regarding the naps, it may be that your DS is preparing to drop the nap entirely.  Have you tried keeping it to just a one hour nap for a week or so and see if there's an improvement?
I hope this helps a bit!

[HenaV]

Hi!

We had a similar problem with R. She had to go in to a bgb just before her 2nd birthday because she too successfully escaped the cit!

For her it was the fact she could so she did if that makes sense. I did exactly what you are - walk her back and put her in to bed. The 1st time I did tell her as a reminder it was still 'sleepy' time and after that I said nothing - I guess along the lines of wi/wo. 

I did also introduce a gro- clock just after her 2nd birthday which has been a hidden d.

Notably, at around 2.5y, particularly at 27m we had a lot if sleep shenanigans which as it turned our were a a result of developmental stuff - for us a language explosion.

Some what to.do?

I I would stick with what you're doing re: walking back etc and if you think dts  is robbing from nts then cut the nap back by 15m by pushing it to 1.15pm and keep. Wu the same. Hold for 3-5 days and consider whether the nap needs to be cut further.

Is he nw / ew or is it just the going to sleep that is the issue?

Hth x