Anyone done 2 long naps at 4 mo?

[MommaStorms]

Thank you both!!! He is #2 and DD1 truly was LSN but I didn't figure it out until she was 11 months old. I did EVERYTHING to get her sleep to be some what consistent and it just never was until I dropped her to 1 nap when she was 11 months. Then it took a few months to un-do all those bad habits. I SWORE this baby would be different... And he was!! For 2 months! He slept like an angel!! Then his naps started going down hill and now his night sleep is starting to suffer and I'm NTS sleep and feeling like a failure all over again. It's like, the pressure is more because I know how terrible it was to have a baby that wouldn't sleep without me and I can't have that again WITH another kid to take care of!!! I hate sitting her in front of the tv every time I try to help him transition during a nap or getting angry with her if she gets a little noisy bc I just want him to sleep so bad. I hate it. I feel awful. 

I've been pushing his morning A so much bc he is having a 45 min nap, BUUUUT maybe that's ok, right? If he wakes up happy and then can handle a couple hours of A after that?  Like...

WU 7:30
S 9
WU 9:45
S 12:15
WU 2:15
S 4:45
WU 5:30
S 8

... That seeeems like what he wants to do. That's 15hrs sleep. Which, trust me, I've been tracking and that's what he gets every day, no matter how hard I try. It's CLOSE to what he did today. Except I pushed his morning A farther than he seemed like he wanted. And his last nap was... Well, it was a mess in the car but what's about when he went to sleep. Then I tried to give him EBT but he cried and cried and cried and then finally about 2hr and 15min of A he calmed down and he fell asleep on his own watching a mobile at 2hr 30min.

[roseola]

It is okay! I promise! Just reading your post brings me back, I remember actually crying after days of poor naps. I was crying and DS1 was happy. I believed he was being negatively affected because he was getting less sleep than the books said. I felt so guilty and I was going to fix it. But I couldn't because it was just him.


Maybe put away the logs and stop watching the clock for a few days? See if he has any tired cues, like eye rubbing, or getting fussy. And then put him to sleep she you see them. Expect 45 min naps, and when you get the ocassional 2 hours you'll be smiling. I've come to view the short naps as annoying rather than detrimental. I know it's easier said than done, but I often read seasoned BW veteran whose 3rd kid  takes four 45 minute naps in one day. 

So many hugs to you.

[roseola]

Lily I just realized we hijacked your thread! So sorry!!

Mommastorms - Maybe start a thread of your own or PM me.

[MommaStorms]

Yes! I am sooooo sorry! Didn't mean to take over the thread!!! I kinda had a nervous break down on the internet lol Y'all helped me tons  thank you!

[lily_layne]

Don't worry about hijacking. I don't mind.

Maybe put away the logs and stop watching the clock for a few days? See if he has any tired cues, like eye rubbing, or getting fussy. And then put him to sleep she you see them. Expect 45 min naps, and when you get the ocassional 2 hours you'll be smiling.

^^This! I know conquering the anxiety isn't easy but I think giving up logging and following cues for a few days is a good start. I read somewhere that babies are spirits to nurture, not brains to train. That helped me stop the guilt and worry when I was nursing to sleep. When you're both ready, you can tackle IS.

Honestly, your routine looks pretty good to me. A few other moms have babes doing a similar routine and when we go out in the am that's what our day ends up looking like.

[lily_layne]

Sunday ended up being a 2 nap day with a very messy BT. I pulled BT back a bit earlier than on previous 2 nap days to avoid OT and it didn't really work.

It was:
WU: 7:20
S: 9:10-11:10
S: 1:10-4:10
BT: 6:40 - Cried and settled at 7:20. Up again at 7:40 and not back to sleep until 9:45.

I am assuming that BT was too early and he treated it like a nap. Yesterday he had 3 naps but only because I was waking him so we'd have time for the 3rd nap and I had to wake him today which I don't really like doing. It feels like I'm interfering with his sleep patterns too much if I have to wake him from every nap.

If I go for only 2 naps, DYT it's just a matter of pushing through the OT for a few days to get to a decent BT and then he'll adjust? Or should I just keep capping naps (at 2-2h30) and keep the CN for now?

[roseola]

Just an idea, but my guy BF at his morning wake up , which ranges from 6:30-8, and goes right back to sleep til
9:30.  So his 2 naps are the same length as your LO's, but BT is later, and after a 2hour A time. I don't even Unswaddle him for his first BF. And I already changed his diaper at his ~2:30 am feed.

[lily_layne]

DS usually wakes to feed between 4 and 5. Having him sleep later wouldn't really work with DD's routine as some days she goes to daycare and I like them to both go to bed around the same time in the evening.

[roseola]

I just read back your OP.

I think I would try a few nights with long A before bed and see if he acclimates. Especially if that routine fits
your life best, you don't enjoy waking  a sleeping baby  , and he is tough to get down for a CN.