I don't think I can do this anymore :(

[rachaelcole]

I've posted a couple of times about DS (3.5 wks) as he screams almost for his entire awake periods. I know he has terrible wind & that's a likely cause.

He had tongue tie which was snipped at 2.5wks, & I'd hoped that would help...it hasn't.

We are in such a viscous circle-he is in pain with wind so is crying, so doesn't sleep, both of which mean that we still can't get a good latch (he's too tired or just bobs on & off screaming) so takes in more air, then is hungry because he can't feed through the screaming, & we just go round & round.

I've seen midwives, HVs, doctors (who prescribed gaviscon querying reflux-but hat made him constipated & so even more uncomfortable!) & lactation specialists - all in 3.5wks!

I'm desperate to BF as I couldn't with my first, but I am so close to throwing in the towel today & making the switch. I know it might not resolve the problem but at least I could rule out hunger!

In so exhausted & so confused 😢😢😢

[Buttonbobs]

((Hugs)) honey, I don't any practical BFing advice for you, but I know someone else will very son. Just did my want to read and not post. These early weeks are so so hard. Xxx

[~*Nicole*~]

*big big hugs*

Before you throw in the towel I have a few thoughts/questions.

*All of my LOs were sucky babies. They would often fuss and want to nurse and then end up overeating and causing tummy trouble of some sort. A paci helped space out feeds and give them the sucking they needed to soothe and calm down in between sometimes. Not sure if you use a paci?

*How are LOs poops? Have you paid attention to your diet at all? My DS had trouble with dairy and soy so if I ate anything with those he'd be miserable, gassy, have bellyaches and we were just in a cycle of him being miserable, nursing to feel better, getting upset bellies and being miserable. He cried ALL THE TIME and by week 3 I was begging the doctor to help. He ended up on zantac and I eliminated problem foods from my diet. DS also had a slight tongue tie that was fixed but we still had trouble until we sorted the other stuff out.

*If you're really concerned about LO not getting enough, you could pump and try offering in a bottle. Then you'd at least know how much he was taking, could space out the feeds a bit, give yourself a break and also know he was still only getting breastmilk. You could have someone else offer the bottle and take a breather! I'm sure you are feeling like you haven't had any time to yourself and you are probably SUPER stressed out. I remember feeling like that in the early days with DS.

*MORE HUGS*

[ENMS]

Lots of (((hugs)))

I don't have a lot of time now but just wanted to say that i had to have dd's tt clipped a second time before ai saw a difference. Make sure you are seeing the most knowledgeable TT dr / dentist in your area as sometimes they can be tricky and look fine. If you did not see a difference I suspect it was not done right.

I totally agree with Nicole's suggestion to adapt your diet. Both my DS and DD2 reacted to dairy and rempving it made a big difference.

More hugs xx

[michaeljacknnugg]

Lots of hugs. Do you feel any pressure to breastfeed from others/society etc or it something you feel would make you happy?

The best thing for your baby is a happy mama, I'm sure you know that but always worth remembering when you're in the thick of things!

[1stimer]

I totally understand . DD was the SAME WAY and at 3.5 weeks I switched to pumping and bottles. It saved my sanity and everyone else's. I'm convinced some babies are just bottle babies and DD was. She wasn't patient enough for the letdown and would scream and we would get stuck in that whole cycle. Like mj said, do what makes you happy. Maybe you could combo bottle and breast? DD took to that for a bit but was much happier with the bottle. I felt bad a first butbibsaw how much happier she was and it made it OK.

[jessmum46]

Big hugs from me too.  I wonder if reflux could still be an issue, gaviscon in my experience does absolutely nothing for many babies and they actually need something to tackle the acid.  Would your doctor (and you obviously) be open to a trial of some 'proper' anti-reflux meds?  Bad reflux can often look like terrible wind, but with the right meds things can be a lot better.  Please do post over on the reflux board too if that's something you want to investigate further, a lot of mummies there will be willing to help xx

[weaver]

More hugs, and total agreement with trying a soother (my LO1 really needed one!), trying some *other* meds, and trying pumping if you want to keep up BF.

You must be so far beyond frazzled at this point, I'm sure you're exhausted hun.  I just want you to remember that and try to take a deep deep breath before you make any big decisions. 

Keep talking to us. 

[*Ali*]

Big hugs. It is hard. I know many women find the first 6 weeks the hardest and then it starts to get easier.

You already have excellent suggestions from pps so I'll just say hang in there if it is something want to do.