13 wo-still short naps

[HaniaJa]

Hi there!
DD falls asleep independently, only given a paci. I had always thought that the reason why she wakes up almost everytime after 40-45 min is the fact that paci falls out. But recently I've noticed that she wakes up no matter if paci is in or out on this 45min. When she wakes up she is usually happy, smiling and ready for A time, but it is extremely difficult to stick to any rational routine as she is usually unable to make A time for more than 1hr 15min. I have a feeling like I tried everything from W2S, through shh/pat for the last 2 months, but it looks like she is too rested to go back to sleep. Sometimes when I do shh/pat she seems to sleep again, I continue shh/pat for 10 min after she seems to be in a deep sleep, but everytime I leave-she wakes up after 2-3 min.

I get really frustrated, because EVERY nap looks like this, even if we take stroller she wakes up after 45 min, looking around for about 30 min and only then goes back to sleep for as long as I allow her to...

Our usual routine:

WU/E-7:30am
S -9-10am

E-10am
S- 11:30am-1:30/2pm (with a nap break)

E-2pm
S-3:30-4:30/5 (45min nap than trying to put her back to sleep for 30min)

E-4:30
S-6pm-6:30pm

E-7pm
BT-7:30/8pm

DF-11pm
NF - anytime between 3-6am

I would appreciate any "repair plan"...isn't she "big" enough to have longer naps? I suppose she should be switching to 4fr schedule, but it looks impossible for now...

Thank You in advance!

[lolsyb1982]

Hi unfortunately 13 weeks is still prime time for those 45min naps and usually fixes itself by the 6 month mark.
An hour nap can often be UT as they're not sleepy enough to go into that next sleep cycle and stay asleep so you could push it a touch before putting down before that first nap.

[HaniaJa]

Thanks a lot, it's just so frustrating not being able to make those naps longer. I have DS1, who is 3.5 yo and because of short naps I have so little time for him, he is angry and so am I...
I really hope that it will change in 2 months - can I help it somehow? Does it make sense to try to W2S to make naps longer or just wait until it just happen naturally, so as not to get frustrated when it doesn't work?;/ How do You think?

[Scottishmummy]

It's hard with an older one around too, isn't it but as pp says 13 mo is pretty common for short naps. Wake to sleep did help sometimes extend my DD's naps How do I address habitual wakings? (wake-to-sleep and other methods) but it I needed to go in 5-10 mins before habitual wake and stay with her for another 10-15 mins after habitual wake- not easy with an older one around

We still did some buggy/ sling naps at this age to get some longer ones and out the housec