We too are fighting the "no nap monster". Ry will be 4 next month and with Cait around, dh and I REALLY need that afternoon down time. So, just know, I feel your pain. We make Ry take his nap, but he usually takes about 2 hours to finally get there and by that time the Diva is awake, so we are fighting a losing battle. Of course, I have had really good luck getting her back to sleep at the 45 minute mark, so there is hope. Hoping to get some suggestions with your initial post.
bj