Nap issues... very frustrated

[RachelC]

Ok, I'm not sure if this should go in General Sleep, or here.  Please move if it needs to.  Thanks

lo's age - 8.5 months

your lo's general routine/schedule for the day - For the past week:
6:30/7 wake and bf
8/8:30 solids
9:45/10 nap for 30, can usually extend another 30 w/o much issue
11 bf
12:30 solids
2 nap for 30, nearly impossible to extend
3 bf
4:30 solids
5:30 bed routine
5:50 bf
6/6:15 bed, sleep by 6:30 at the latest

wind-down that you use - we go to her room and turn on white noise and music and light off.  Sit in chair just a tiny bit or she gets very antsy.  Lay in crib and rub back until settled then do wi/wo as long as needed.

any other information that you think is pertinent - I do believe that I am a prop by rubbing her back    and I also believe that she is very overtired.  I have tried putting her down earlier for naps, but it really doesn't seem to make a bit of difference.  She was doing well with her naps until last week when teeth broke through and she wound up with a fever.  She now has a runny nose, but she is sleeping great at night (well, last night DH had to go in twice before 10, but other than that, the last week has been fine)  I don't know what to make of it, so any suggestions would be appreciated.

[RachelC]

Stacy,

We are working on lessening the rubbing of the back.  Tonight was better.  When I did the wi part, I didn't have to go to her, I stood away from the crib and just talked to her until she calmed, then I left.  Only took 20 minutes tonight.

When I go in after the first 30 min, she is still laying down and her head doesn't even pop up.  I did try the other day to get her up, but she was such a grouch, and no go on a longer PM nap.  I truely think she still needs the 2 naps, at least an hour each.

On a good note, I was able to extend the PM nap today.  She woke at 20 min and went back for another 40.

[RachelC]

Does w2s work the same way for naps as it does for night wakings?  Do you just go in and stir.  I did try early on (ages ago) but it just woke her instead.  She is a touchy and very very very light sleeper.    We can't even peek on her before we go to bed for fear we will wake her (we have)

[RachelC]

I would be oh so terrified to use noise.  Half the time I think it's noise that wakes her in the first place (dd1 was playing mini golf in the kitchen right below dd2's room yesterday when she woke.  And how dare I open the basement door during a nap today  )

Thanks, I may tell dh to try tomorrow AM, as I will be at the gym 

[*Natasha*]

Hi Rachel,

Just wanted to say we are going through a silmilar issue at the moment 
From 5.5-8months she was doing 12hrs night and 2x1.5-2hr naps. Then her nights went to 11/11.5hrs and her PM nap started to get shorter until it was 30-45mins and the last few days she has really fought it. So whether she likes it or not i am limiting her AM nap to 1.15hrs to start with to see how long she will sleep in the PM. I way have to limit it to 1hr so i can get 1-1.15hrs in the PM.