Thankyou for your thoughts and suggestions. I've considered reflux a number of times but usually ruled it out since he's never shown any fussiness or signs of pain after the feed stops (or a certain time after). He does spit up lots though after every feed (except nighttime ones) - but doesn't seem overly bothered by those 'wet burps'. Plus he sleeps fine.
At about 6weeks I did talk to my plunket nurse who is a breastfeeding 'expert' she showed me how to latch him on properly. And for a couple of weeks I really tried so hard to make that work - but problem is that he bobs off within a few sucks of being latched on, or adjusts his 'grip' to a slightly less ideal one, and even when he had a 'perfect' latchon it didn't improve his behaviour on the boob (that one visit I had with the plunket lady he behaved wonderfully
). I have a mothers group at plunket every tuesday morning - they saw me pacing the hall last week (including the expert I'd talked to orginally) and I asked them about his behaviour but they didn't have any suggestions as to why movement would be helping him, only said they thought he'd hopefully grow out of it. I asked the doc about the arching back and he just said that perhaps it was my supply and that I could put him on formula if it was bothering me (great help he was!!!). But he did check his ears and said there was no infection. He made no mention of reflux.
We are (hopefully) coming to the end of the 12wk growth spurt - it started bang on 12weeks and with the floor pacing I've been able to get heaps into him at each feed (and he feels like he suddenly weighs a ton
. We've been doing 2 feeds at night again but these are slowly going back to 1 (hooray!) again - he went 8.5hrs after his bedtime bottle last night (that was not quite 1/3rd formula). He'd taken 150ml. To keep up with the growth spurt I've been drinking nursing tea and pumping a bit - got a bit of engorgement going on (again- this happens at the drop of a hat for me) but at least I know we've got heaps of milk. (his bad feeding behaviour hasn't changed since the spurt started though- it was just as bad before). When I pumped for each feed on Saturday I was getting 150-200ml total over both boobs (220 in morning, 140 at bedtime). When he feeds I can hearing my LO swallowing clearly - gulping at first and then every few sucks towards the end - when I've tried pumping after (to see what he's left behind) there's rarely anything except a few mls so I figure the latchon was good enough for him to be getting the milk out fine. I think the main reason my nipples are still a bit tender is due to all the bobbing on and off rather than the grip - when I can feel that it's really not right I'll certainly put him back on properly. A few times over his 12weeks I've managed to single side feed him but each time after a few days we seem to end up going back to double again, not quite sure why this is.
Well, this is a long enough post. Samuels mum, thankyou so much for your help! I'll get on and look at those websites you sent me and see if there are any proper consultants in my town that I can get an appointment with.
Oh, also I've tried the football hold (v awkward and no better latchon), also elevating him to about 45deg while feeding (no difference in behaviour, but I do it anyway just in case it helps), tried feeding him lying down (definitely didn't work!). I always feed him in his room with the lights off and no interruptions. I've tried talking quietly to him, singing quietly to him, patting his bum, or just silence - none of it makes much difference. Even with the bottle he bobs on and off a bit but at least its not hurting my nipples!