Ladies, i need your help desperately. Dd's separation anxiety has reached a point where i'm ready to tear my hair out!!! She is being utterly impossible these days.
When i leave for work in the morning, she screams blue murder. When i get home in the early afternoon, i have to keep her in my arms the entire afternoon - if i try and put her down, she screams and cries, if i put her in her walking ring, she may stay there for 5 mins or so, then screams and cries to be picked up, if i put her in her cot or on the floor with all her toys, she'll again stay there for about 5 mins then scream and cry to be picked up, when i put her down for the night, she's so incredibly restless and will wake 5/6 times to reassure herself that i'm still there. I literally cant move until she is in a deep sleep and even then, she can wake at any given moment.
It's not even good enough that i am in the same room as her, i have to be right next to her, holding her or touching her otherwise she just cries.
Last night i went to have a bath once she was down and left dp to watch over her - she woke up screaming after i'd just got in the bath and dp couldn't settle her - needless to say it was the quickest bath i'd ever had (long, relaxing baths are a distant memory to me now). I asked dp to help me get her back down, but dd just screamed and cried when he took her, once she was back in my arms, she settled immediately and went to sleep (restlessly).
Dd slept out at my sister the other evening because they had dampproofed our home and the fumes were making her sick. She didn't fuss once, didn't cry when i left and my sister had no problems whatsoever. WHY is it that she will go to my sister quite peacefully and yet will scream when dp tries to help me out with her? She won't even let dp feed her! I really am at my wits end - I HATE myself for resenting this phase she is going through, but i truly do not get 5 minutes to myself. By the time she's actually sleeping, it's often so late and i'm so exhausted that i just want to crawl into bed and sleep - then dp accuses me of never talking to him anymore - i'm too frikking tired to talk!!!!!!!!
Dp and i had SUCH a fight over this last night, i was resentful because i have to do EVERYTHING when it comes to dd and he was telling me that it's because i've spoilt her (i think smothered was the word he used!), which resulted in me saying that perhaps if he'd been a more hands-on father, this wouldn't be happening ... GGGGRRRRRRRR ...
PLEASE ladies, is there ANYTHING i can do?
Sharon