my wind down is normally holding her in my arms quietly in her room and then putting her down. Shush pat i haven't really used but i will also try that first. Her nighttime does have a prop - my breast: i feed her last then put her to bed. although there are times when she comes off the breast and i put her down whther she is asleep or not & she alwasy falls asleep by herself. She didN't take the pacifier so she sucks on her thumb, hand whatever she can find.
I will say that since my last post she is now fall,ng asleep on her own in her crib sometimes almost immediately sometimes i have to pick her up maybe 1 or 2 then she falls asleep. Whether this is going to work in the long run i'm not sure because she is not on such a strict routine as Tracey recommends, although we are not bad.