ok her day looks like this:
7.00 am feed etc
8.00 am sleep
11.00 am feed
12.00pm sleep
2.00pm feed
3.00pm sleep with a lot of encouragement
4.00pm (this is where it goes pear shaped) feed (but then sometimes we're too busy crying to feed).
5.00pm try to put to sleep but usually doesn't work
6.00pm might try to get a feed here but usually rejects me anyway
up to about 7.30pm pat, swing, rock, bounce etc etc maybe get her to feed and then maybe not
8.00pm IF i am lucky she is asleep by now, if not we may still go until closer to 10.00pm (they're the REALLY BAD days)
10.00pm - wake her up to have a feed. she goes back to sleep nicely.
1.00am - she wakes for a feed goes to sleep
5.00am - she wakes for feed goes to sleep (with some encouragement)
7.00am back to the beginning.
of course every day changes. she also passes wind a lot!!!!
thanks for the offer of help.
Nic