Move to sisters room or get sleeping through first?

[Chicki]

Hi ladies

I have done accidental/on purpose parenting from the beginning with my little man who is almost 1.

I think we need to transition him from 2 - 1 naps because he is REALLY reluctant to go down in the pm, so I am going to do that first, BUT, I need to get him into his sister's room and sleeping through the night too.

He sleeps in a port a cot in my room and comes into my bed at about 1am when he wakes for a bottle (I know, I know) and has been waking a lot all night in the last couple of weeks, combined with the reluctance to sleep in the pm makes me think less sleep during the day.

So he has 3 bottles a day at present (one before going to bed each time) and at least one at night (100mls perhaps, maybe more).  He has recently reduced the amount of solids he is eating (probably because of the milk and also I know they stop eating at 1 sometimes), so I need to attack that too.

I am going to need to do pu/pd to get him through, and wean him from the dummy and hopefully have him sleeping through.

I am just not sure if I should do it in the comfort and familiarity of his own port a cot first to make it less stressful or just go for broke and move him into his sisters cot (she is moving to a big girls bed shortly) and do pu/pd and dummy weaning all at once and then put her into bed after having her sleep with my husband until he can go through the night?

I think I have answered my own question, do it in his own bed then transition but I would like others opinions

Thanks girls!

[Ami ~ 3 girls' mom]

Our experience was that night wakings disappeared when she moved into her sisters' room, away from our bed.  If you don't think your daughter would sleep through the wakings she can 'camp out' in another room for a few days.

[Chicki]

STOP IT, seriously?

actually on that subject, i found my daughters night wakings STOPPED when there was the constant noise of a newborn at night, it was like she wasn't interested if it wasn't HER waking up, she learned to sleep through the baby.

I might give it a go, anyone else had that happen?

[Ami ~ 3 girls' mom]

How old is your daughter?  Does she sleep with any noise currently -- music, white noise, etc?  Mine are old enough to understand that the baby was moving in with them and it might take a few nights for them to all get used to each other but that it was really really fun to share a room.   

Have you looked at the birth club page to see if anyone else has been in the same situation?  https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?board=74.0

[Chicki]

Hiya

I had a look, did a search on it and came up with so much irrelevant stuff that it will take me all day to find it!  Also I see that individual questions on that board are always moved anyway. Its pretty hard.

Can you tell me what you did or have you described it in another post somewhere?

[Lilah'sMommy]

We have just now started putting our 6 week old in her sister's room full time the last few nights.  DD1 never wakes when she wakes to eat, and as long as DD2 is sound asleep when DD1 goes in to bed, DD1 doesn't wake DD2, either, even though she has been throwing some spectacular bedtime fits lately!  Really, toddlers sleep very soundly.  If having to do PU/PD will bother your daughter (and that is a whole different game than a newborn waking for night feedings, so it very well might), you can have her camp out elsewhere for a few nights.  After the first 3 nights, the worst of PU/PD will probably be over and there will be much less night waking and much less noise coming from your DS.

[Chicki]

Thank you Sabrina!

So you think probably 3 nights of bad pu/pd huh? I was going to send DD to sleep in with DH tonight (friday) and tomorrow and sunday nights and I was going to sleep in the kids room on the single bed and deal with it. So I can sleep in on Sat and Sun

That might just be the best idea..... get it over and done with.

I was thinking of putting her full time in the single bed from the cot, she still loves the cot, then after a week moving the cot into our room and getting the boy used to it and then putting the cot back but i think i might just go for it, it can't be much worse than it is now I reckon.

Crazy stuff. And next I am going to be worrying about tantrums instead, I have to say, the worst thing about DD was the sleeping thing, I think I could handle most other things with the angst I went through over that.  I must be the worlds most patient woman.

When I finally get the sleep through I think I am going to have a huge party!

[Ami ~ 3 girls' mom]

Hiya

I had a look, did a search on it and came up with so much irrelevant stuff that it will take me all day to find it!  Also I see that individual questions on that board are always moved anyway. Its pretty hard.

Can you tell me what you did or have you described it in another post somewhere?

Sorry, I didn't mean to search for anything  , just to join the group that your ds falls into.  In the one for my youngest, all the parents seem to be going through the same thing at the same time so someone's bound to have advice (or at least comisseration ).

My older two went to Grandma's one night and we moved the crib into their room to see how the baby would do if she weren't in our room.  It was more of a space issue, actually, as she couldn't sleep any worse.  When the girls came back there were three kids in a room and they don't bother each other now.  But (and this may be a big one in my favor) they are almost five and three.

[Chicki]

oh i see, sorry, great idea!

Thanks for your help ladies. I have reconsidered again (oh the angst)

tonight Charlie goes in the big girl bed, after a week the cot comes into our room and that is bubby's bed. In the meantime, no bottles for him, or very weak formula to wean him from them, but all other comforts, so when no bottles  is established then i resettle him in his cot with a dummy and patting, then when that is successful I will either just put him in Charlies room while she is gone for a few days and do pu/pd there or do the pu/pd in our room and move him once he is sleeping better, i am thinking that maybe move him first, I will post how I go!!

Love to you all
Happy weekend

Beck