OH no..NOT again!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP and HUGS please

[kirsty_167]

HI

Im back.I guess i just need some hugs and a place to let this out.
My son is 20 months. We thought we had the nWs under control after months of him not sleeping and waking 5-8 times a night. We have had 2 good months .....now it has started all again.Last night i think he got 4 hours sleep in total. Me.......even less

 IM shattered.upset and down right miserable today.I feel very alone as noone i know has this problem.(that they say) I'm very much housebound at night so me and DP cant evn have a night out.This is causing much stress too.

Last night Jakob screamed hysterically as he does for hours on end. He would calm for  abit then start again when we tried to leave the room. I do WI/WO and i did this for hours.He did give in about 3.30am.........he did the same a few nights earlier too.

I am going to dr to rule out ear infections but i know it wont be that,just have to cover bases.Could be teeth but medicine didnt calm him...so i just dont know.Never do.

Sorry im so down. Im tired and depressed today. I mean 20 months.............is this how it is going to be for years to come? I just dont see the end of this and that does my head in at the mere thought.

Thanks for letting me rant

Kirsty

[mari]

No, I'm sure that it's something else.  Has anything happened recently?  How did he nap?  I bet it's teeth or ears although meds didn't work, teeth sometimes cause stomach upset.  Have you noticed runny  pooh?
I hope you sleep better tonight.

[mari]

sorry nearly forgot:

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))

 

[kirsty_167]

Hi

Thank you for your reply.

Jakob hasnt had any signs of anything else other than sneezing,so maybe a cold coming.I dont know.His nappy is normal.His temp normal too.

His nap yesterday was at daycare they said he napped fine but i was a bit dubious on that one as he had a major meltdown at 6.20pm which is his cue of being overtired and having not napped well.
He normally goes through to the room at 6.30 for stories and in bed by 7pm.Earlier if i see the tired signs early.
Unfortunatley i hadnt seen any tired signs prior and once he meltsdown its all over and i knew the night would be bad...just not this bad!!!

Having 2 bouts of major dental work last week and then today have left me feeling rubbish so this isnt helping as I just dont have the strength,hence why i feel so down.

I appreciate your advice and hugs i so need perking up!!

Thank you
Kirsty

[holdenlouis]

{{{Hugs}}} Kirsty. My lo woke at 4 am too and I couldn't get him back to sleep. Very unusual for him he's been doing so well. What a long day. When my lo would wake a few months back when were doing the 2to1 nap he got overtired and did what your lo is doing, waking and crying inconsolably. He would be up for hours. Just a thought. Hope you both get some sleep tonite.

Lisa

[Layla]

Kirsty {{{{{HUGS}}}}}. Everyone that I talk to tells me they don't have sleep probs either but you've got to block that out because I am sure they do (even if its not to the same degree). Just 2 days ago, Isabella woke up crying 1hr into her nap  . Totally puzzled me cause she's been doing good and then all of a sudden.....

Like you said, he could very well be coming down with a cold. Actually mine was caughing and sneezing today as well so... I would say maybe what hapened the other day was due to her coming down with something. Go the docs to get him checked out and then we can start eliminating things.....

Try not to let this get you down & remember this too shall pass (this was my moto for a VERY long time & now its come back cause J is giving me a bit of a hard time as well......)


Lots of HUGS and KISSES
Layla

[kirsty_167]

Thank you so much Lisa and Layla!

 Jakob got the all clear at the dr so no ear infection He slept well at daycare and went down happily tonight.............what does tonight hold in store??....who knows really PLay it by ear I guess.

I too hold that motto "it too shall pass" BUT some days i cant see thru the haze of tiredness to remember that!! Especially now im on very strong painkillers for my dental work and all i want to do is sleep!!! 

It could well have just been overtiredness. We shall see tonight if thats what it was.IF its another bad night then its something else,like a cold or teeth etc.

When Jakob was little we were going through a really rough time as we waited for a specialist appt for his reflux. He wouldnt sleep at all in the day and nights werent much better. I distinctly remember my mum telling me when he was 6 weeks old..."it all gets better by the time they hit 12 weeks dont worry".............
OK .....HELLOO!!!!!!!! Jakob is 20 months and im STILL waiting!!!!

Of course im at the other end of the day now so im not so depressed. First thing in the morning after a rough night is the worst,then
you kind of get on with it..IYKWIM?

Thanks for helping me with your advice and hugs..........i used to post on the support thread for sleep issues with toddlers but that was up to 19 months and we are passed that!!

Thank you again all advice welcomed and appreciated.

Kirsty