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New type of night waking, not sure how to handle it
« on: April 07, 2007, 11:39:53 am »
The following has happened the past two nights and DH and I aren't sure how we should be handling it

This is my sons schedule. We pretty much follow it to a T give a half hour here or there

7- 10 am   awake
10- 11:30  sleep
11:30-2:30 awake
2:30- 3:30 sleep
3:30-7:30 awake

he does really well with this schedule. Sometimes he wakes early for a bottle, between 4-5, eats and goes back to sleep till 7. sometimes he'll sleep straight through and other time he sleeps from 7:30 pm to about 6am and we just start our day there. It varies

but here is a new one

two nights ago, at 3am I here him stirring. He wasn't crying just a scream here and there and then i'd here him talk to himself. This went on for about 20 min. and then I could tell he was getting frustrated. About 20 min. from first hearing him he was all out in a cry. I went in and he had wedged his head at the top corner of the crib. I could see that was what was stopping him from sleeping. So I moved him back to the middle, put his blanket over him and walked out. He immediately started hysterical crying. So went back in and did ssshh/pat. He right away calmed down but wasn't going to sleep. Would just stare at me or the walls. After about 10 min. I said goodnight as he wasn't crying but wasn't falling asleep either. The minute i walked out of the room, hysterical again. Back in. We did this for an hour. At 4am, i said enough. I was tired and we were getting no where. everytime i left he cried, i walked back in he stopped and was fine

from 4-4:25 he was hysterical. I NEVER do CIO. I hate it. but i didn't know what to do. am I promoting some behavior?? at 4:25 I went back in and by 4;45 he was back out. Slept till 7am. so he was up for 2 hours.

Last night he went to bed at 7:30 and at 5am again I hear him. I went in and for 30 min. again the crying when i left fine when i was there. I walked out and told DH to go in. Maybe DS was playing with me but would be different with DH. Nope, 20 min. of the same thing. fine when we are there, hysterical when we leave. After 20 min. i told DH to let him cry. He cried for 15 min. and again wasn't calming down. Went in and did ssh/pat for 10 min. and he was out. But this time he really didn't fall back asleep and at 6:30 he was up for the day

Not sure how to handle this. He goes down for naps and bedtime by himself. Sometimes with a minute or two of shh/pat but other than that, no problems. He isn't hungry when he wakes because if he is hungry, he doesn't stop crying and the fact that he stops when we come in, tells me he is fine

Any suggestions on how we should handle this. He isn't teething. again no signs of pain or discomfort in any way.  Just lays there and stares when we do shh.pat and cries when we leave

help

jaime
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Re: New type of night waking, not sure how to handle it
« Reply #1 on: April 07, 2007, 19:11:50 pm »
not sure how old your LO is (pos around 9 mths) but hat you are describing is a version of WI/WO hich is used mostly for toddlers.
Please don't leave your baby to cry.It breaks the trust of your LO.This could be the reason he is not resettling at night now as he is worried you will leave.
I personally would try something like pu/pd until he is completely settled.there is also the possibilty he is teething which could be causing the NWs

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Re: New type of night waking, not sure how to handle it
« Reply #2 on: April 07, 2007, 20:12:46 pm »
hi there, ohhhhhh, we too have this on occaison, last night being the latest and it absolutely cracks me up, especially since i was at work for a 12 hour shift today!!..... last night i 'gave in' and tried him with a drink of water and he fell back to sleep so not sure if this will create or resolove a problem but it's worth a go??!!  but my lo is nearly 9mths and i'm not sure if his brain is so active since he's just started crawling.
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Re: New type of night waking, not sure how to handle it
« Reply #3 on: April 07, 2007, 23:00:21 pm »
thanks ladies

SASHASMOM- i too hate to let him cry but it was an hour of shh.pat and he was just staring into space happy that i was there. he didn't want to come out of his crib, he literally just layed there staring. occassionally he would look at me and smile but just laying there. so i would try to leave, he would get hysterical. i would go back in

when would i do PU/PD if he doesn't start crying till I leave??

he has no other sleep issues. goes down for naps and bed time all by himself.

he could be just in a phase. i just got over the night bottles, so don't want to offer anything. if he's hungry, he usually cries and won't stop even when i come in unless he gets a bottle. so he isn't hungry because he stops crying when i come in. i dont think its teething because again, he isn't uncomfortable. its like he wants someone there with him.

not sure
jaime
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Re: New type of night waking, not sure how to handle it
« Reply #4 on: April 08, 2007, 19:10:18 pm »
This could be a little bit of seperation anx.Some babies can get SA and be absolutely fine during the day but worse at night (as this is the longest time they are away from us).
I'm going to find you a link regarding it which has some great info
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Re: New type of night waking, not sure how to handle it
« Reply #6 on: April 09, 2007, 00:15:30 am »
SASHA- thanks, that actually sounds like it. we had a good night yesterday. we'll see what happens tonight. thank you for finding that
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Re: New type of night waking, not sure how to handle it
« Reply #7 on: April 09, 2007, 12:59:47 pm »
well, we had a good night last night too. he woke at 5am screaming but I tried to settle him and nothing. Gave him 5oz. bottle and he went back to sleep. played alittle by himself and then out till 7am. so definetly was hunger last night. maybe it was a stretch of seperation anxiety. i don't know. but thank you again for posting the info.
Jaime

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