Mari, yes he sleeps in a bed. We transfered him from his cot to a new bed much before the little one was born.
And, yes, we give him A LOT of attention! All our time is dedicated to our children, we play a lot with the older one, sometimes a go out with him alone...
Some times I tried to make him help me, but the results were not often nice: once he took the diaper away from me and took it to another room! Most of the time he doesn't seem to be interested in what I do to his little brother, the only thing he wants is to play with someone (he just can't play alone! but this I'll post in another board...)
Anyway, I'll follow your advice!
Dear Colesmom, how I understand you!
To tell you the truth, as I didn't know the BW, and I had never heard about the method wi/wo, I used a "desperation" method... I just left him in the room crying! As I'm sure you understand me, I was desperate, thinking that soon I would have had a newborn at home and the thought of staying with the older one for more than 1 hour to make him sleep was really impossible! So, I said to my husband that, first of of all, we should be consistent, we should do exactly the same thing: taking him to bed, singing his favorite songs (he doesn't appreciate reading stories at bed and he's a great singer!
), then kissing him and saying he should take a rest and that tomorrow would be a great day, etc, etc. I have to say that I found that talking about the things we'll do the following day help a lot!
Then, believe me, after only ONE WEEK, the problem was solved! Obviously he cried for a while but then he fell asleep on his own. Of course that, one day when he was crying desperately, we entered the room, calmed him down and then left again. But be prepared to listen to him crying...
From my experience, even regarding discipline problems, I found that if both parents follow the same education pattern, it helps a lot! We got wonderful results when me and my husband set down and talked quietly about his behavior and what to do about his education. He is now very under control and much more obedient. Even if some times he still makes us go crazy... He's always in the "terrible twos", so, we can't expect too much!
hope my experience helps!
PS-sorry about my english, I'm portuguese...
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