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Offline mango_baby

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Please help. My 2 1/2 year old extremely spirited toddler wakes every am at 530 and from naps screaming. I am reinforcing it by going in quickly to him, but if I don't he wakes up the baby by his loud screaming. I want to just leave him and go in only when he is quiet, but he will just wake everyone eles in the meantime. Just now i was putting baby down for a nap and my toddler stood at the bottom of the stairs screaming "Mama". He woke the baby up who had just fallen asleep. What on earth do I do? Any suggestions or anything are greatly needed. I have used rewards, etc, but at this point I am stuck. 530 am is a brutal way to wake up by a high pitched scream demanding me to go in to his room. HELP!!
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Re: I can't go through this at 5 am...Help with screaming toddler
« Reply #1 on: May 31, 2007, 07:10:06 am »
I know the problem with 1 waking the other up
I can't say rewards etc really do solve a problem & I think if he is calling then he does have a need, only going in when he is quiet IMHO teaches him his needs aren't important.
My youngest regularly wakes up at 5amish & cos he is in a bed he can (& does) go to his brothers room, so I have learnt to hear him walking out his door & go & meet him & we go back to his room... often if I can see he isn't really going to go back to sleep & the pattern could be repeated, I stay with him & we cuddle in bed.

It really sounds like he is feeling like he isn't getting his "cup full" of your attention & he has worked out a way to fill it up.  I'd take a look at the rest of his day & see if there are ways you can meet his needs there... otherwise maybe plan to wake up first & be there so he doesn't wake the baby... I mean as it stands now you aren't getting to sleep past 5.30am anyway.
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Re: I can't go through this at 5 am...Help with screaming toddler
« Reply #2 on: May 31, 2007, 08:49:58 am »
Also what does his day look like (napping & bedtime)



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Re: I can't go through this at 5 am...Help with screaming toddler
« Reply #3 on: May 31, 2007, 14:11:29 pm »
Zander sometimes needs to know his mummy's there when he wakes in the morning - I'll usually go to him initially to make sure everything's ok and give him a big cuddle then I tell him 'mummy's here, mummy loves you, but it's sleepy time now, go back to sleep' and I leave.  Sometimes he starts up again so I use his baby monitor which has a facility where I can talk through it and I repeat what I said when I left him and he's happy again - sometimes I have to repeat a few times if he starts to get upset again but I really do feel he just needs reassuring that mummy's only down the hall and can hear him if he needs me.  How old is your baby, maybe it's related to wanting extra reassurance from that change in his life?

Having said that, if he was waking at 5.30 crying and from naps crying I'd probably be dealing with overtiredness so I'd look at his routine too and perhaps try to get him to bed a little earlier in the evening.

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