I am so confused on where to begin. We need help with lo's sleeping. She naps poorly and doesn't sleep well and night. She's overtired and fussy and we can't take her anywhere. It's been hard on our marriage with her constant waking and fussiness cause she's overtired. She's addicted to the pacifier so when she stirs and realizes it's not in her mouth she wakes up crying. Also, it's not just easy to pop it back in and she'll go to sleep. When she wakes up, she wakes up. Doesn't matter if it's a nap or in the middle of the night. I then have to soothe (rock/hold) back to sleep or feed her if it's appropriate at night. I've resorted to sometimes feeding her every time she wakes at night cause I can't get her back to sleep. Or if I do, she won't let me put her down without waking right up and I have to start all over. We are all stressed and very tired.
Do I start trying to fix the nighttime sleeping or the napping? With the napping, I can usually get her to take 2-3 45 minute naps. She wakes after that and won't go back to sleep. I was reading about w2s (is that the right symbols) and how I should nudge her to get her to stir and then fall back to sleep. However, she stirs a lot during her sleep, especially naps. So, i don't know if I should still do it. I'm just really confused on where to begin with her.
Oh and her nights are all over the place. We try and get her to bed at the same time every night. Some nights it goes easy, other nights it's a fight. Some nights she'll give me a 5-6 hour stretch before nursing and then another 2-3 hours she wakes again. Other nights she's up every 2 hours and I can't figure out why! She never sleeps more than 8 hours and she always wakes fussy and grumpy so I know she's not sleeping well. I need some suggestions!!
