Fights sleep in the day

[pazzy]

Hi wondered if anyone could help.MY LO IS 13 WEEKS  and she fight her naps through the day. She sometimes doesnt sleep during day then she gets really upset an hour before bedtime. I tried to put her down for a nap, in a dark room she went to sleep but woke up mins later . I went up and patted her and she went off to sleep but again woke up. Can someone give me some advice

[~*~Little Miss Sunshine~*~]

could you post your routine for us?  Also is your dd going to sleep independently?  What type of wind down do you do?

[pazzy]

To be honest, im new to this so havent got much of a routine except for bedtime. She goes to sleep on a night after her bottle. Shes still awake when she goes in moses basket but she has a light show on the ceiling but no music , she likes shadows etc . She goes to sleep afer about 15 mins. She stares at light.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY WIND DOWN.at night its bath bottle/breast bed.

[~*~Little Miss Sunshine~*~]

By wind down I mean what types of things do you do to signal sleep?  For example, for naps, I pick ds up, tell him it's time for a nap, walk him upstairs, close the blinds, turn on his white noise and put him in his sleep sack.  I kiss him on the head and tell him to have sweet dreams.  for nighttime, I give him a bath (if it's bath night), a massage, put on his pj's, feed him, turn on his white noise, put him in his sleep sack (awake), pray, then place him in his crib.  Sometimes people read to their lo before bed, but I find that too stimulating for ds right now.

Since you do not really have a routine, what do your days look like?

[pazzy]

My day is;
Wake up, change lo nappy and feed her. Then i get washed and dressed and breakfast. Then play with lo on play mat or in the swing or may be a cd with nursery rhymes and sing to her.
After a while i let her relax inher moses basket while i do some house work. Then its feed time again. she is fed every 3 hours but sometimes goes longer , not very often.This goes on through out the day.
Round about 6 she starts getting upset and i can see shes tired , bed time is Bath bottle /breast and then bed. I say goodnight  its time to sleep and kiss her, and usually she is good and goes to sleep after 20mins.
Its the afternoons shes just started more wingey and upset. today was the worst .Ive tried trying to get her to sleep .she goes for 15 mins then wakes up crying  until she goes to bed thats how its been fr 2 days .Thanks for replies

[MJMom]

How much does she nap in between feeds?  I did n't see you say anything about that?  at 13 weeks about the most your LO should be awake at any one stretch is about 1 hr - 1 hr 15 minutes other wise they get over tired.

[valeamalia]

Hi Pazzy, I just went through the same thing, when my LO was 13 weeks I had enough and ask for some advice here, and what
Anne says about not keeping them awake for more than a hour, make a huge difference for us. Give it a Try and let us know.

Good Luck

Ana

[pazzy]

Well she had a feed at 10.15 am this morning  and at 12 midday she was yawning so i put her in her moses basket and she fell straight to sleep. Its now 12.36 and shes still asleep. This is what happened for last 2 days and she woke up after 40 mins and was really wingey and wouldnt settle  then she had another 30mins later on but again woke up wingey until bedtime

[~*~Little Miss Sunshine~*~]

You might want to try decreasing her A time maybe start winding her down (taking away stimulation) 15 minutes before you think she will be tired. I know at 13 wks, my lo wouldn't give me signs he was tired until it was too late.  Once he yawned, he was overtired.  And if she only naps for 40 minutes, be extra sure you are putting her down sooner for the next nap, especially if she is whiney.

[MJMom]

1:45 minutes is a long time for such a wee one to be up.  Normally they can't stay up that long for another month.  I'd try decreasing A time to between 1hr and 1hr 30 at the very most. so that would mean, per Anne's suggestion about the wind down, let's say she woke up at 10:15 to eat.  and it took her 20 minutes.  At 10:35 you would play and then at 11:00 you would start the wind down to put her in bed at 11:15 for a total of 1 hour awake time.  Then of course, it may take her a while to settle once you lay her down at 11:15. 
She sounds like an angel baby that she is only whiney when she's tired!!  The 30 minute nap is an indication of an over tired nap and not a restful nap
HTH!