Hi all!
I haven't been to these boards for ages because things have been great both with Oscar (nearly 2 & 1/2) & Noah (nearly 9 months).....I've always followed BW advice for sleeping issues & Oscar has had several goes with PU/PD & then PD and he's been a great sleeper because of it. He has never slept with us, always in his cot & until he worked out how to climb out of it a few weeks ago (in Grobag & all!), he was happily having a 2 hour nap & 12 hours at night (rarely waking).
At the same time he's always tried to fight going off to sleep & I've spent many hours singing/shh patt/PU/PD etc etc but he desperately needs it too. He doesn't cope with tiredness, especially overtiredness well AT ALL. He's a textbook child...as soon as he gets overtired (misses a nap etc.), no question he will start to be unsettled during the night etc etc. I've always then put him down earlier rather than later & (sometimes 5.30pm!)....& just as Tracy says, he will sleep longer & not wake until 6.30-7am!
Well all this went out the window when we realised we couldn't contain him in the cot anymore. With Oscar, the containment helped enourmously because he would just have no other choice than to lie down & sleep (eventually sometimes!). He could fight it, but had no choice. Well hasn't that changed now!!!
He's currently on a mattress on the floor while we wait for his big bed on order. For 2 weeks I kept persisting with his nap & putting him down but he went most of the first 2 weeks with no nap & just got himself so overtired it was cruel to see! Then he started going down & still today he will but he'll often end up asleep on the rug behind his door. We've had to take everything (toys) out of his room so it's as boring as possible so he will have more chance of going to sleep. Locks on drawers etc...he's into EVERYTHING & isn't the sort of little boy who is going to stay in his bed, stay in his room...all he wants is to be out with us or us in there with him etc etc...he's into drawers, shelves, pulls out night lights the whole lot!
We've always closed his door & had a monitor so I don't see any need to start opening it now?
Anyway, it didn't help that amongst all this we had a week away interstate where he slept on a mattress on the floor & sometimes my husband ended up in the bed/room with him (I know I know this is where it all started but the room wasn't child proof etc!!!!). But then we said to him this is only because we're away from home & you're getting used to being out of your cot etc & when we get home you have to do it on your own (it was probably only 2 nights of the whole week that my DH went in).
For the first few days home it was fine but he was still reeling from weeks of not great sleep & overtiredness & each time we'd say good night after the routine he'd just go crazy, want us to read more, more bottle, sit in the chair, lie on the pillow etc & end up at the door whining/crying etc etc & then fall asleep at the door (this would happen for day naps too). In the day we leave him there (the rug is quite comfy & thick at least!) but at night we would then go in & put him into bed.
THEN 3 nights ago he woke at 11pm, went straight to the door & started this continual whining (not stressed, fearful or anything.......just mumeeeeeeeee, dadeeeeeee, out big room, open door etc etc) but really LOUDLY under the gap at the bottom of the door....& was awake for 3 HOURS! We kept putting him back to bed, calming him etc etc...we didn't want him to wake Noah. Eventually he went off (without either of us on his bed but after going in several times to calm him, tell him it's sleep time, no we don't sleep with Oscar we sleep in our room etc). Next night it was 1 & 1/2 hours & last night I was so tired & stressed I Just couldn't lose anymore sleep (i'm unwell too) so my DH went straight in & settled him by sitting next to the bed until Oscar went back to sleep.
I know we have to do 'boot camp' as we call it. We've decided we're not going to do it full on right now because we're away again next week but once back we will. My question is do we just leave him (not go in at all).....because it does seem to be a big attention thing & I know we're creating a rod for our own backs by going in at all because that's what he wants? I guess if we just went in, put him back to bed, no attention/talking, firm 'it's sleep time' that could work too.....but at his age now if it's just whining not stressed should we just leave him?
Any advice would be great sorry for the long story!!! This has just hit us hard & I'm so emotionally & physically stressed & exausted by it!
If we had 'crib tents' in Australia I think I would've got one just so he was a little older with a little more reason when he had the new found freedom of 'out of cot'!
Sophie :-)