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Offline nathan_smom

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Does whining count as cue to go in?
« on: October 18, 2007, 17:07:48 pm »
Ok, real quick,
We have been struggling on and off with naps with my toddler.

Very often he wil settle himself (still in crib for another week or so...make room for little sis!)
and then he will stand up and cry/whine for MMMMOOOOMMMMYYYY again and again and again...you get the point! Its not a real cry, just whining and then sometimes it escalatates into a cry and thats when i go in, no eye contact, lay him back down, cover with blanket and leave.....is this correct? Sometimes I only have to do this once, sometimes quite a few, and still other times I do it for over 45 minutes and he is so wide awake/OT that I take him out and we settle for an early bedtime.

AGGGHH...did I mention I am aslo struggling with an almost 3 month old with naps as well (transitioning from swing...UGH!)
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Re: Does whining count as cue to go in?
« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2007, 18:04:54 pm »
With my toddler, I definitely don't go in for whining.  I wait for a genuine cry.  When I go in for whining it generally backs fire and ends up making him angry.

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Re: Does whining count as cue to go in?
« Reply #2 on: October 19, 2007, 01:35:19 am »
Robin,
Just an idea.... is the whining new since little sis was born?  My first born had a real tough time with naps after his little sister arrived.  I'm guessing he was already feeling attention starved since Ava was demanding so much attention throughout the day, so naptime got really tough!  I had a ton of success with giving him lots of extra attention (if I could) right before naptime (e.g., cuddles and stories) and also started a "Good Rest Jar" which was a simple little plastic container with slips of paper listing different "rewards" (like playing a game with mom or getting to play with playdough or a special snack).  If he was "quiet as a mouse" during his rest time, then he got to pick one out afterwards.  The bad nap streak ended almost overnight!

hth a little at least!
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