13 month old. How much sleep should she be getting?

[jogym]

At the moment my 13 month old DD wakes around 7.30 sometimes earlier but don't go to her until around 7.50 as she is happy enough and sometimes lies back down again.  Naps at home are usually around 11.00 -12.30 on average about 1 1/2 hours.  When I am with her at home I can put her down in her cot and I would try for another sleep at around 3.45 (she can take maybe 10-15 mins or so to get over) and this is until about 4.45 when I wake her and then bed again between 7.00 and 7.30 right through til morning.

My question is:  Is this too much sleep during the day for a 13 month old?  I know the afternoon nap is quite late but she does around 3.30 activity time and even though bedtime is 2.30 hours later she goes down fine at night and sleeps through til morning.

I just feel that I am shipping her off to bed when she mightn't need it.  My mum says she is doing this because I have trained her this way.

Another question is (I know it's not about naps):  DD has just started to walk and does not seem interested in playing with toys.  All she will do all day is follow me about from room to room and get into all sorts, cupboards etc.  Is this normal at this stage?  There are loads of toys in the room but she will only play with them for about 5 mins max before she's off again.

[em_here]

1st things first, if she is happy and sleeping through the night going off to sleep at night fine etc... I wouldnt meddle with the naps, if it aint broke dont fix it kind of thing.  Sounds like you have done great and I dont think its because you have trained her that way, you just have a great balanced routine

You second Q, I think it is normal to be disinterested in toys when they get mobile definately.  when Abbi started to crawl lack of toy interest started straight away. She is back into them nbow, but its just a phase, everything else they couldnt get to before looks so interesting now, like opening cupboard doors is sometimes amazing to them (it is in this house anyway)

As I said I think you are doing great! If she starts nw, or not settling at night I would change things but not now when things are perfect!

[jogym]

Thank u for your reply.  This is DD no. 2 who is so different to big sis.  I never experienced this with DD1 she was more chilled and not as active so it's all different even with the sleep big sis was not good sleeper until 10 months through the night and she slept sporadically? through the day no routine as such so this routine business is all new. 

The other week DD1 was not well with cold (still isn't) so she slept until 8.50a.m.  dr's appointment was at 11.40 so she didn't get her morning sleep so when I took her to my mum's I said `now if you're going out now will you try and put her down for a nap when you get back'.  When got home later NO NAP which meant she had been awake from 8.40 a.m.  This annoys me a lot where my parents are concerned.  My dad said to me `you're going to have to get out of this scheduled times for sleeps thing you know'.  My mum said `well she didn't show any signs of tiredness'.  This totally cracks me up.  I said `well I'll have to put her to bed at 6.30 now' and mum said back `well that's better for you then isn't it`!!!  I'm like no it's not me i'm worried about it's her.  Maybe I shouldn't get so anxious about it as they only have her 2ce a week but there have been rows about it in the past.  They don't get that she needs to sleep during the day.
   

[em_here]

My family can be exactly the same, they dont understand the routinr etc.... it has sunk in now, so I say boo sucks to everyone who doesnt get it.... I would try calmly speaking to her and explain how hard you have worked for this etc.... worth a try do you think?

[jogym]

Well it's only twice a week.  They don't have a cot for her you see.  Got them a travel cot but they said she just cried.  My mum wont leave her to cry probably as my dad works night shift and sleeps during the day so I get her point.  The days I have her she sleeps fine for me and my husband the one day he has her.  I will just have to live with it.  It doesn't seem to affect her on the days I have her at home.

[em_here]

Oh thats good then 

[tara72]

reading your post, jogym, makes me feel so much better! my 12-month-old also sleeps a bit (two 1.5 hour naps and 11.5 or 12 hours at night) AND she doesn't play with her toys as much, since she's started walking a couple of weeks ago. she follows me everywhere and it can be hard to get things done. well, at least I'm not the only one!