Husband not helping the food issue!!

[Coliedy]

Does anyone have a problem with their husband (or other) corrupting the eating habits in their home?  I try and try and try to keep “good” food in the house, but somehow there is always crappy food in the house.  And of course, my ds always wants the crap food.  When ds tells me he is hungry the fight is just about to start.  Ds wants chips, chex mix, candy, chocolate, etc….  It just really P/O’s me because I don’t buy these things because we (as in all of us) don’t need them, and yet some else does even though I have asked him not to several times.  I have even said fine get them just make sure ds doesn’t know.  (aka find a new place to put them)
I’m truly not the “Food Nazi”. ds doesn’t have to eat fruit and veggie only or a specific diet.  I just can’t take the wars anymore. 
Does anyone else have this issue or suggestions?  Please let me know.

[kerry,(kaceys mum)]

hugs hun,, sound a hard one,, sure your ds can have sweets,, if her eats his fruit and veg first!

i would try tough love,, throw away every single bad food you see,, and do this everytime some is in the house!
dont give ds ANY of these untill he is eating a proper diet,, not one!
he may not give in for a day or two,, but tough love is what it needs,, he will soon eat

[Jenn©]

Umm, yup!!  I can't convince Dave that a glass of milk, chips and cheese is not a nutritious supper.  On the other hand, she eats a bigger variety of stuff at daycare.  Little fart will eat fruits and veggies there that she refuses at home.  Sooo, one pediasure a day to make mama feel better.       

[shelliz]

Hugs....that has to be hard.      What does dh say when you explain you are trying to teach healthy eating habits? Would he agree to keep his snacks in a special place not visible by the kids (and eat them after they've gone to bed?)

[Lissybits]

That's a good idea Shelby!
DH often keeps crappy chocolate croissants (which he eats at break at work) in the car That way DS doesn't get to see them!
I am really strict about DS eating crap - it just isn't allowed in the house.

Greeks eat fresh bread with EVERY meal and we even have to hide our bread now at mealtimes as DS chooses that over his meal every time! He's a BIG bread lover . We must be the only family who doesn't eat bread - except as a sandwich
Lis
x

[Kimberly®]

I'm afread I am the more laxed in the house. I just don't worry about it, worry just causes more problems.

We have "bad" food in the house. DD gets it (not right we eat it and she can't) but we also have balence. We believe that healthy eating and teaching that is about balence and choice. If you restrict foods kids actually fight more to have it. Instead we take the other approch, as long as she eats what we give her she can have a treat. She doesn't get treats everyday, but she also knows she's fine to have them.

Rather then making them tabo and therefore more wanted we just have them there. I find that she simply doesn't care anymore. She'll eat pretty much anything this child

To be fair, yes you want to teach your child healthy eating habbits and "good" foods, but you can't trully expect your DH to give it all up eather. After all its not an easy thing to do when your not used to it. And it is an addiction   You don't want resentments building up between the 2 of you, food is just not worth it.

Maybe see if there is a way you can balence it. DC having chips, or candy, or chocolate, or chex for a treat once in a while isn't going to make him a bad eater. It will make him fight more if he see's daddy having them, but he's not allowed, after all he wants to be like dad. Maybe you can find a balenceing point there some place.

Deffinitly you can move the "bad" foods somewhere else though talk to DH and see what you can work out together.

[EmMUK74]

I don't have DH bringing it in but I have to control the grandparents, they are allowed to treat her but grandad would let her skip every meal and have sweets and icecream instead and he doesn't realise it gives her sugar highs and lows and increases tantrums.  I just keep explaining nicely and maybe one day he will realise, although it might take him dealing with a tantrum to do it.  perhaps that's an idea for DH?

[Fiona (Leah & Kians Mom)]

I agree witholding treats just makes them want them more. DD has only know started to understand what treats are and is happy with a pringle in the morning for being good at night, a gummy bear in the afternoon after quiet time. However she will often get extra ones for no reason and if dh is having crisps she can have a few, after dinner and by now he knows not to take them out before hand. DD also knows that when she is naughty treats will be withdrawn, she may ask once but usually doesnt bother after that.
But the problem here doesnt seem to be withholding all treats just having them at the wrong times? Or ds knowing they are there and can have them or would prefer them to other food? If dh wont move them to another place then why dont you move them for him one night when ds is in bed and just tell dh thats where they are from now on.

[skatty]

There are lots of really good books on nutrition for children, perhaps you should coax him to read one  I give Leorah occassional treat foods like biscuits but they are made by Organix and are sweetened with  fruit juice and no refined sugar. The thing is kids stomachs are really small so why fill them with crap? JMO but my DD is not the biggest eater so I like to think what she does eat is providing some good nutrition. We are not food nazis either and she has had chocolate buttons and cake before but it is what you give them most of the time that counts isn't it? As for grandparents I think kids quickly learn that there is a big difference between the rules at home and at nanny's house!

[lilmonkey]

We have some junk food in the house and dd knows it.  We don't forbid her from eating them and she is allow an occasional treat (1-2 chips, sips of pop, etc).  She doesn't ask for them all the time and knows that they are treats and is very good when we tell her no as well.  I think that you can't prevent them from eating junk food but you can teach them to not eat all the time.  It's all about teaching them to pick healthy food over junk foods.