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Need a bit of input
« on: March 12, 2008, 20:06:50 pm »
I thought I would take the oppurtunity of thomas being at his gran's tonight to start sleep training emily. Background: Emily used to fall asleep on her own (swaddle) from birth until just before xmas when she started being very difficult all around and thr AP started. She has always used a paci which she is clearly dependent on but I am not prepared to wean atm. Until this week i would rock with DD in the BFing chair until drowsy, then lay her down and she would go to sleep. this week she started crawling and getting into a sitting position from crawling and also being very fidgetty when I try to hold her to sleep. SO tonight I BF placed her in cot and left her to it, she played well for a bit got frustrated, I went in layed her down and replugged. She rolled over immediatey and the same thing happened. This went on for 1.5 hrs by which point she was beside herself and a mess. I went in PU and held her and she fell asleep, I put her down she wailed I placed a hand on her and she went ot sleep. (also has a cold so this was makign her bunged up) she seems NOT to be able to NOT roll over and sit up /crawl :-\ would u postpone the training until she's got the crawling out of her systeM??? It seems she cant control doing IYKWIM!? Also, is there another way in which I can teach her to lay still? I tried laying down on my bed with her but she thought it was a game ::) I really really cant do this when I ahve thomas at home too as he can hear her and I DONT want them both up!

If i stay in the room with her it seems to 'distract' her. If I try to soothe her shh patting, rubbign back, etc she jsut starts interacting with me....I cant settle her at all.
She will not takea lovie, in the sense that she doesnt kno what to do with ti!!!!

I need a plan and GW is the best for me but honestly....I havent got much patience, am too tired and tonight I just wanted to let her cry it out as felt so frustrated. She has a really hard time switching off so I think our big prob is in winding down... i tryto wind down but it seems to make her fusssy, I put her down and she plays. i leave her to play, she gets upset as wants to go to sleep. I try to soothe her in crib and she perks up again aaaaaaaarrrrrrrggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh
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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #1 on: March 12, 2008, 20:58:23 pm »
I've certainly found that the first few days or so that they learn a new trick it is pretty much a reflexive action for them to keep doing it. Having said that, Chloe has been getting onto her hands and knees for weeks and weeks now, and still does it compulsively when she lies on her tummy. She doesn't seem to have 'gotten over it'!!

What would she do if you just held her still in the position she falls asleep in? No patting, rubbing, sh-ing? That's what I do with Chloe, then try to let go as she's falling asleep, but wait to make sure she doesn't roll out of sleeping position.
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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #2 on: March 13, 2008, 02:25:38 am »
Michelle....

  I really think it is a developmental milestone and it is just so difficult for them to lay still as these new tricks are just so much more fun than sleeping. I think I wouldn't totally stop the sleep training b/c as soon as she has the crawling down, then she will start pulling up and then it will be cruising, walking, etc.  I know it is difficult.  We just got done with Joshua wanting to crawl around for long bouts when I would lay him down. He never actually called out for me but I would go in ever so often and lay him down and cover him up. Kind of a reminder that it was time to sleep.  I could not be in the room as he wouldn't stay laying down (or lay back down) if he saw me there. I guess it would be like walk in/walk out.

 :)  the only thing constant is change!!   :-\

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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #3 on: March 13, 2008, 08:57:29 am »
hhmmmm thanks guys, that's exactly what I was thinking too. To clarify...she IS held to sleep, thats our prop along with the paci and i think thats why its such a big prob. When she was going to sleep independently she wasnt able to move all that much so she would lay still and go to sleep maybe fuss a bit. Now that I have decided to train, she's totally mobile can crawl pull up etc SO sort of doesnt know what she should be doing......Thats what I was doing last night , laying her back down shh her and telling her its sleep time. Stacy....I enjioy and appreciate your st6alking!! ;) I do leave her to it as Thomas does the same as Kaleb but she gets very upset once shes fed up with the playing and wants to go to sleep but at that point she's an OT mess and cant keep still even when I pick her up. I think I have issues with the 'passing out from exhaustion'....I'd like to gently be able to teach her that she can stroke a teddy, hum, whatever to soothe and then when shes done close her eyes and lay down...the eyes never seem to start drooping!!!
Anyway will keep at it... am just a bit confused as to how to help her
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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #4 on: March 13, 2008, 20:12:50 pm »
Michelle,

I wish I had some ideas but I really just want to give you some (((Hugs)))  :-*
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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #5 on: March 13, 2008, 20:18:52 pm »
Aww Nic, thanx, you've been a great friend love ya :-*
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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #6 on: March 13, 2008, 20:34:08 pm »
Quote from: yaya on March 13, 2008, 20:18:52 pm
Aww Nic, thanx, you've been a great friend love ya :-*

Swap 'Nic' for 'Michelle' ... and right back atcha  ;) :-* :-*
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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #7 on: March 13, 2008, 21:36:40 pm »
just wanted to send you more HUGS you have gotten some great advise already  :-*
FYI my DH is never still when he falls asleep it drives me crazy  ::)
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Re: Need a bit of input
« Reply #8 on: March 14, 2008, 15:01:00 pm »
How's it all going?  :-*
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