It just got worse ....

[Mama2boys]

very helpful. Now all I need to do is convince DH and get going tonight. No postponing..will let you know if I chicken out or not!

btw he also uses the pacifier, do you think I should try and get rid of that as well? I am thinking not....since that would be just an overkill, and he tends to find it more often than not...so I am ok with it in some ways...

[mari]

Mutka, I went cold turkey on the milk too.  In my opinion, if you give milk for wakeups they just start to escalate and you could end up giving 3 bottles a night(I did)
Ensure that there are no illnesses, including teething.
Try to have as little as possible contact with him, but always reassure him that you are there.  He will cry, as long as you are there and reassuring him then he isn;t crying alone and he will learn to realise that you will come if he needs you but now is time to sleep.

[Mama2boys]

oh Mari, i am so ready for it (except for the teething possibility) but Dh is completly non-supportive he thinks DS needs the milk!

how do I sort him out?

[Colin Macs Mom]

which one? DH or DS?

[Lissybits]

Morning Mukta,

How was last night? Did you cold turkey the milk?

I totally understand about DH being unsupportive. I think I've told you before that my DH was the same. He refused to do PU/PD.
And even now he still doesn't get the early wakings need an early BT - AARRHHHHHHHHHHHH!!
I just resigned myself to doing the sleep training alone as ultimately, I was always the one to get up in the night anyway!

But it's hard when you are alone and DH is unsupportive or simply doesn't get what you're trying to do. But hey, we all know that women are more intelligent than men!

And now that I have sleep trained DS, successfully, all on my own, DH says that he probably would have started sleeping through anyway as he's growing up!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

You can't win sometimes! But I know that I am ALWAYS right and I just keep it to myself most of the time!!

Lots of hugs and kisses to you and Uday,
Lis and Nicholas
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Mama2boys]

DH Jessica,

sorting DS is way easier, I am his mum and I knwo whats bets for him 

Thanks Lis, hugs right back at you both, how is Nicholas' finger?

I know I am right as well especialy as you lot is behind me, but Its so bloody irritating when DH makes me feel like I am straving the poor kid and he is so desperate for milk. then he will say - I just can't see him cry...as if I can!

Anyways, here is what happened last night, let me knwo how good or bad it went.

DS slept off at 7:30/7:40 after milk and cheerios (cheerios being a new addition) and had  a couple of paci related NW before 11 but nothing major. And then he woke up only at 4:45am and was absoluteley hysterical, I mean hysterical! So I picked him up, cuddled him, walked to the other room, calmed him down and gave him a teething powder (he takes that a lot more willingly than medi) and offered water in a bottle (he won't take sippy cup at night) and he had a couple of oz and settled back to sleep a bit of pat and off he was till 5:30, and this was proper waking up (I was hoping for anything after 6am). So he got his milk had 5oz of the 6 offered, and he then tried going back to sleep, but after 30mins of moaning and groaning he was up for the day at 6am.

What do you think? Did I do this good bad or ugly?



then bfast at 7:30 and back to sleep at 8:15.

[Mama2boys]

Hi ladies,

Lats night was a bit odd.

Took forever to get DH to bed he slept only at 8:30, very rare for him, but woke up only at 6

There was slight movement and stirring at 4 and I ran in to replug the pacifier and all was well again.

btw He is teething for sure so that could explain some strange behaviour...

Now if only I could sort out the EW we would be fine!

a happier Mukta

[Lissybits]

Oh well, that's good news!! You must feel better today after getting a fairly decent night's sleep - bless ya!
Try not to be so hasty in going in so quickly as you want him to be able to settle by himself.

Work on the NWs first and then sort the EWs out. After all 6 isn't really too bad! In our house, anything before 6 is definitely still night time and anything after 7 is just fantastic!!

Keep up the good work!

Lis
xx

[Mama2boys]

Thanks Lis.
DS went down at 7:30 today so hopefully that should help with the EW. Fingers crossed.

[Vicku]

Hi Mukta!

Sorry I've not been on here supporting you. Was in UK for over 2 weeks and didn't have access to internet. Then everything's been mad trying to get back to normality when home again...

Just wondered how you're getting on now? Hope things have improved! Did you do the sleep training? Have you tried giving your DH parts from the BW books to read to help him understand the ideas behind the approaches? Or is he not keen on finding out?

Anyway hun, thinking of you and hoping things are going well for you.

Hugs, Vicku

[Mama2boys]

Hi Vicku,

Good to hear from you. Hope you had a wonderful trip to the UK, the weather has been lovely for the last 2 weeks so you did time it well.

Sleeping has been pretty good at our front with about 3/4 days a week being almost STTN nights a couple of days we have EW both most days we manage 6am or after and I am happy.

wrt the nights we are getting better at just putting him into bed and need WIWO about 2 time son a good night and DS falls asleep, some nights we have not needed WIWO at all. So progress for sure.

We have had  a few nights of 2 hr wakings in the middle of the night but WIWO has helped.

BUT lats night was awful DS would not sleep etc, and has developed a bad cold today and I think his canines are pushing as well.

So all in all good progress and we are doing well, might have a bit of a stumble with the cold etc but at least I know how to come back on track..or so I think .

take care
Mukta

[Vicku]

Good to hear you've had success with WI/WO, that's been the best for us too. Hope his cold disappears quickly! We've battled one for a week and a half now...

speak to you soon!

[mari]

Well done Mukta.  You should be very proud.

[Mama2boys]

Thanks Mari.

To be honest we are still not completly there, but well on our path..and lets hope this does not jinx it!

Thank you again you wonderful ladies!