big hugs to you!
can you post what you did yesterday (what actually happened, not what your ideal is) like this:
7 wake and bottle
9:30- 11 sleep
11 bottle
including NWs and night feeds
just an example, do you kwim?
yes, taking him into your bed is probably part of the problem because you're not giving him consistent signals. how are you doing the pu/pd? can you give me a description?
does he ever fall asleep on his own or do you always have to help him? paci?
sorry for all the questions, just trying to get a better idea of what's going on so i can help.
if he's still on 3 naps this may be part of the problem too, around this age most Los drop to just 2 naps...