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What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« on: November 12, 2008, 11:24:02 am »
Hi everyone,

DD and I are pretty social and catch up with friends/playdates etc often.  Dd has a great appetite and really really loves her food.  She is very healthy and eats heaps of fruit as her snacks when I am at home but when we are out with a few others and the snacks are crackers, tiny teddies, rice wheels etc it is becoming harder.  She is 18 months and of course enjoys eating crackers but I don't often give them to her, especially when it's so close to dinner.  I take fresh fruit for her which she eats but because other mums are giving their kids crackers I too give them as she is looking at them and I don't want to give her a 'food complex'.  DD has always been beautifully chubby (right from the word go!) and we've never had a problem with her eating different foods but the past two days when we were out and she 'snacked' she didn't want her dinner.  I find it easy to say no to her at home and give her a toy etc, go outside as I know she is not actually hungry (possibly more bored/getting tired).  I certainly don't want to be sending negative messages to her about food.  I was thinking that maybe when it gets to the point that she keeps wanting crackers is the time to leave as maybe she really is just bored.  Or do I say no?  Think I would get some funny looks from the other mums, and dd looked quite upset when I tried that today - it's a tough one...  Any suggestions would be great.  At 18 months does she understand "No, because soon you are having dinner".  Should I offer morning tea and afternoon tea and in between meals and if she wants anything else she has to learn to wait?  Or take her dinner so if we are out at 4pm and others are snacking then at least she is actually eating something decent.  For example I can easily take some healthy sandwiches and a yogurt out on the days that I know she are going to be out closer to dinner time.  Or just get over it because it seems as though most kids are snacking...  I don't want to have this perfect meal routine but never go out with friends but this has been bugging me for a few weeks now as I think sometimes she eats when she doesn't quite know what to do with herself... Also, people often joke with me how much she loves her food which I think is great but don't want it to look as though she constantly eats...

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Re: What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2008, 11:55:54 am »
hi hon - if it were me with my 18 mo old i would take the dinner foods and serve them with a couple of crackers, this way she is feeling included but just gets a taste and then has her sandwiches and yogurt.

if she were older i would just let her have the snacks on those occassions and offer dinner a 1/2 hr later than usual to offset the snack
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Re: What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2008, 12:49:44 pm »
I do the same as Deb about offering dinner later.  Sometimes my parents come to visit close to lunch and they bring her chocolate milk, which she loves.  I let her have it, as it is only maybe once a week and something she enjoys doing with her grandparents, and then just give her lunch a bit later when she is hungry.
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Re: What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« Reply #3 on: November 12, 2008, 18:29:58 pm »
I would take the sandwiches and a yogurt and possible a couple of crackers like Deb mentioned.

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Re: What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2008, 10:53:15 am »
Thanks, I'm probably more concerned as she has VERY good appetite!  Which I think is great but also think I have to be careful - today I had a friend over and I had carrot sticks for her which she ate - every single one I might add!  I do think she associates having friends over with eating as before the friend came she had eaten but at least carrot sticks are healthy.  Then she did eat her dinner.  She just loves food :)  Tomorrow I am out and there will be lots of kids so I will take her healthy snacks and let her enjoy the crackers - I have stopped giving them to her at home as I find that she is just as happy to eat fruit or veges - so I don't want to stop her from having a treat all together.  I have her 18 month check up shortly so will chat to the health nurse who knows her quite well but I'm sure she is fine.  Everyone tells me I should be grateful that she'll eat anything :)  Thanks again...

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Re: What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« Reply #5 on: November 13, 2008, 11:10:39 am »
I just posted something really similar in relationships: http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=136739.0
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Re: What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« Reply #6 on: November 14, 2008, 02:33:40 am »
Wow - I just read that post and it looks like the fun has only just begun!!!  Lots of great ideas and made me realise how important it is to introduce the healthy snacks early - which I'm glad I've done.  Loved the quote about the world being a big sugary, oily place!  Thanks so much for that...  I will keep on making the effort with the healthy snacks and see what happens...

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Re: What to do when other mums offering snacks when out and about?
« Reply #7 on: November 14, 2008, 09:04:00 am »
I know, that response was an eye opener for me too, since that poster wrote that I keep looking around and all i see is junk food lol  ;) xxx
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