ok, MIL keeps my LO two to three times a week. She just will not do what i ask her to do with LO at nap time, which is...the routine of turn on sleep music, close blinds, turn on humidifier and say "it is sleepy time", then put LO in the crib awake to let herself fall asleep, which she can do. She insists on NOT doing the nap time routine and she HOLDS her until she falls asleep. I have finally come to grips with the fact that she will NOT do what i ask her anymore, so i have given that part up. My question is this....will 2 to 3 days a week of getting her out of her normal routine of putting herself to sleep (when my mom keeps her or when i keep her) throw her off completely? It just makes me so sad, because my baby is so good at singing herself to sleep in her crib and then she stays longer for her naps. When MIL keeps her she holds her until she is asleep, producing only 45 minute naps, because she wakes up and isn't able to put herslef back to sleep....UGH!!! i am just drained and saddened at this point....OH...and you DONT tell my MIL anything...she is the queen bee