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Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« on: March 24, 2010, 21:50:27 pm »
Please please please help!!

Our DD is constantly walking around with a dummy!!  I hate it!!  She has a lovey toy too.  She's 2 in July. She goes to daycare 2 times a week and just has her dummy for a nap when she's there.  Am I just being weak and giving in to her??  Yep, I think so!!  She cries and cries for her dummy so I give it to her.

What's the best thing to do??

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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #1 on: March 24, 2010, 23:00:54 pm »
While we weaned Josie from her paci at 7 months after too many darned night wakings, by the time my 2nd DD (Natalie) was a baby, we learned about putting lots of pacis in the crib with them for sleep times and that worked out fine.

When Nat was 2-1/2 or so, maybe a bit less, we all went to the dentist (Josie and I had our regular checkups, Nat came along to watch) ad the dentist expressed concern about the paci. When I talked to Nat about it (remember, she was maybe 6 months older than yours is now), she and I actually came to an agreement that we'd have to give it up, and she participated in the process. At that time, I was regularly keeping 2-3 of them in my right pants pocket for any occasion when she needed soothing, even at preschool recess (she came to work with me when I worked in the 2YO classroom at a preschool.), so giving them up took maybe 7-10 days total.

Some people set theirs aside, some have rituals involving a "paci fairy" who comes and takes them when they're ready to give them to children who don't have any (or to parents who will secretly burn the lot LOL) - whatever works for you.

Maybe you can get her to keep the lovey while giving up the paci, since there might be some tooth issues with the paci but really no good reason to force her to give up a lovey as a comfort item, especially if the "sucky-thingy" is going away. :D

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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #2 on: March 25, 2010, 00:54:37 am »
I am going to pop this over to the toddler board.  You will get more age appropriate help there :)




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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #3 on: March 25, 2010, 08:40:37 am »
Hi  :)

DS still sleeps with his dummy - it REALLY helps him to get to sleep so we just give him several in his cot and then he can always find one in the night.  *But* in the daytime he is not allowed it - after I wake him from his nap I just take them all out of his cot/mouth/hands(!) and put them out of sight.  I just say "no dummies now, you only have them when you go to sleep".  He then only gets them again when he goes down for his nap.  It took a week or so of this and now he just understands and doesn't generally make too much of a fuss.  Occasionally if he is very distraught about something (immunisations, if he's ill/hurt himself badly) then I'll see if the dummy helps to soothe him - but I wouldn't just give it to him if he is crying *because* he wants the dummy iyswim?  In those cases I would just repeat our rule, and then distract him by playing with soemthing else/taking him out of the room/jumping on the bed  ::) :P.  Perhaps you could decide when you are happy for her to have it and just make some clear rules that you can tell her and stick to?  

On the other hand, I don;t mind if he has his lovey at any other time - carrying a bunny isn't going to effect his speach/teeth etc like a dummy does  :)!  He goes through phases of carrying it around, but then other times is not bothered.  

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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #4 on: March 25, 2010, 08:55:22 am »
Hugz to you Rachel!  I heard from people who also use a big girl tactic.  So you're a big girl now, dummy is only for babies.  Perhaps aiming at getting rid of it on her 2nd birthday?  Or something to that effect?  I'm assuming that she's understanding your talk and perhaps talking already? 



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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #5 on: March 25, 2010, 20:50:12 pm »
Thank you so much guys  ;)

Yep, I don't mind at all if she has her bunny, it's just the dummy thing.

After I posted yesterday, I thought "Why have I posted, I know what to do!!!" But it's just reassurance you need sometimes isn't it?

Yesterday morning she didn't have a dummy at all, I gave it to her at nap time and then I couldn't get it off her after!!!  She had an injection yesterday afternoon, so I figured I'd leave it for that day.

She has day care today when she only has it for nap time, so I'm going to try again today .

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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #6 on: March 26, 2010, 09:51:44 am »
We do dummies are only for sleep times here as DD was developing a bit of an addiction!  Plan to get rid of it in the summer when she's 2 year 4 as I think she'll understand enough then to take part in the process like Deb says.  I also want rid of it before this new baby comes or she'll have it forever!





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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #7 on: March 26, 2010, 10:55:34 am »
Hey,my DS is 22months, and today after being nagged nagged nagged all day, I chopped the endsof his dummies up. Now it's nap time and my word he is protesting... been going 30mins now. I'm going cold turkey, he is so addicted to them! He only used to have them for sleep, but somehow got to wanting them all day, not good!! He has a lovey and put his dummies in the bin one by one this morning, whenever he found one that was broken. So hard isn't it! X
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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #8 on: March 27, 2010, 17:41:56 pm »
Well, we went for cold turkey. Day 2 today and he hasn't asked for it once! Lastnight he went to sleep in 10mins, didn't wake for it once, and slept 12hours!!! :o

I say go for cold-turkey if you can hack the crying the first nap or so... hope you're getting on with dummy removal ok! X
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Re: Almost 2 and stopping a dummy??
« Reply #9 on: April 07, 2010, 21:35:12 pm »
Hi,

She just has a dummy for her nap and bedtime now  ;)
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