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NIghts getting worse not better for 2 month-old.
« on: September 08, 2010, 15:49:48 pm »
HI tehre. I'm not sure if this is better suited to the EASY board or here, but the hardest issue to deal with right now is night time. Feel free to move.

I've seen some similar posts to mine on here but thought I would post my own situation in case anyone has any insights or ideas on what I can do differently. We seemed to be getting into a better routine last week. Nap times were improving (although mostly 45 minute naps but he was settling more often in the cot with patting). Nights were not great - waking every 3-4 hours till the wee hours (i.e. 4ish) when he was more wakeful and fussy so brought into bed. DS. was moved into his room a couple of days ago. He had been in a cradle in our room and is now in his crib. It has not improved his sleep one bit but is making harder for me because I have farther to travel for his wakings and they seem to be more frequent.

Last night he was asleep by 7, woke for a feed at 9:30 (usually wakes at 10) and took 80mls of EBM from dh.
Then he was up at 12:45 - fed from one side, would not take more though I tired. Too dead sleepy - back down by 1:10.
Woke at 2:30 - hungry. Fed one side again (I think) and then I did not get him settled again till about 3:45.
He was up again at 4:30 - hungry again. Asked dh to bring him in to bed as was too dead tired by now. He fed again after crying a bit.
Think He fed again at 6:30 and was up by 7:00-7:20 (dozing).

Our days are not great either. I try to get him to sleep  by 8 for first nap. For the last 3 days this has not gone well. It has been interrupted by poop, gas, or just waking up in the early stages (i.e., at 20 minutes). So, this morning I had him asleep by 8. Had to leave him before the 20 minute mark as ds2 is home sick and was throwing up (am home on my own). Didn't get ds3 back down till 9. He woke at 9:30. Not crying but did not look like he'd go back down right away. Tried to get him down at 10:15. Didn't leave his room till 11:20. I've spent close to 2 hours now getting him to sleep and its only 11:45. OUr mornings have been like this. Usually manage to get 1.5-2 hrs out of him in the afternoon with lots of APOP and maybe another 45 in the Moby wrap. His total nap sleep usually is around 4 hours give or take.

Other issues - he's not a great feeder. Seems to have lots of issues with gas and I often spend much of his awake time offering him the boob - which he takes willingly at first but then comes off. I sometimes end up feeding him at nap time (which I do not want to do), because he finally seems to want it or wakes in the early stages, spits out his paci and starts rooting.

I want to make any changes I can to improve things. I have been working towards independent sleep but when he is so fussy at naptime then I forgo patting in the crib as it just prolongs things and increases OT. Instead I will get him to sleep in my arms patting with paci and put him down and continue to pat/holding through jolts. I am spending too much time dealing with sleep these days and the night are killing me as I am now only getting at most 2 hours at a time. Last night I think I got a total of 4 hours sleep.

Please help!  ???

Becky,
Mom to Kieran (10/15/2000); Aiden, (7/ 8/ 2005); and Samuel (7/10/2010)

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Re: NIghts getting worse not better for 2 month-old.
« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2010, 20:47:32 pm »
After a rough morning he's having a longer nap (over 1.5 hrs) in the Moby wrap. Am desperate for a better night tonight. Wondering if an earlier bedtime would help given that he must be OT. I think I am more stressed by this because I had 2 terrible years of sleep dep which have traumatized me and made me feel pretty useless at baby sleep. I really don't want to go down that path again.
Becky,
Mom to Kieran (10/15/2000); Aiden, (7/ 8/ 2005); and Samuel (7/10/2010)

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Re: NIghts getting worse not better for 2 month-old.
« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2010, 22:21:00 pm »
becky,
i have no help to offer you b/c i am going through the same hell you are.  but i just had to bump this and tell you how similar our stories are right now.  frighteningly similar, really.  my guy is 5 months (3.5 adjusted) and has gas, reflux, and the inability to sleep.  i too am getting 2 hours at a time MAX (usually less).  offering the boob all the time, he bobs on and off and ends up taking his best feed at naptime.  yikes, are you sure you didn't just spend the night at my house last night and write all this about my kid??

okay, HANG IN THERE!!  your kids need you... your hubs needs you... just hold on.  order in, get as much help as you can. screw the laundry and the dishes.  my DS1 didn't sleep thru the night until 14-15 mos. and didn't take good naps until even later -- and somehow i lived to tell about it.  shh/pat never worked, neither did pu/pd, and eventually we settled for CIO which i am NOT ready to try with this one.  so don't think this is coming from someone who has had a fabulous experience in the past and everything worked like it was supposed to.  you can do this.

remember that you are exactly the right mom for your little guy.  God matched the 2 of you up for a purpose -- for His glory.

my LO just finished his 4th 40-minute nap of the day.  guess i need to go figure out what the rest of our day will look like.  1 more 40-minute nap, dinner, then bed?  holy cow.

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Re: NIghts getting worse not better for 2 month-old.
« Reply #3 on: September 08, 2010, 22:52:21 pm »
will write more later but your last sentence describes our usual days! thanks soo much for your support. it means a lot to me.
Becky,
Mom to Kieran (10/15/2000); Aiden, (7/ 8/ 2005); and Samuel (7/10/2010)

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Re: NIghts getting worse not better for 2 month-old.
« Reply #4 on: September 09, 2010, 02:20:27 am »
Wow it is nice to know that i'm not alone in sleepless land...
I have a 2 1/2 months old baby girl-touchy baby-who's wailing everytime I try to get her to sleep. Only does 45 minutes naps-has to be asleep when put in her crib-exclusively BF, usually can do 2.5-3 hours but today was feeding every 2 hours. At night, she's usually asleep by 7:15, DF at 10:30 (if I have the nerve to do it considering that sometimes she wakes up and it takes me up to 2 hours to get her down again) and then it's either 3 or 4am for a feed which is good but afterwards she wakes up every 1h-1.5h until 7h..
I'm very tired, don't really know what to do to get things on track. I have a 2 y old boy who has fragile x syndrome (mentally impaired-hyperactive-non verbal), very difficult to try anything with DD when DS is in the house. And since I want him to continue to sleep through the night, I am not willing to let her cry a lot so therefore lots of APOP.
Well I guess it will get better one day, just don't know when..
Hang in there
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Re: NIghts getting worse not better for 2 month-old.
« Reply #5 on: September 09, 2010, 02:41:38 am »
Having 9 and 5 year old sons - I KNOW it gets better as they age. It's just so hard when you are in it. I think I will try going on a gas attack. I think it is interfering with feeding and sleeping and contributing to OT. I've read others' strategies...eat bland foods, drops (i've used them), massage, baths, etc., and will see if I can help it a bit. I have to say, these boards and reading that others are going through the same thing is really reassuring - especially as other people I know seem to have these easy babies.
Becky,
Mom to Kieran (10/15/2000); Aiden, (7/ 8/ 2005); and Samuel (7/10/2010)