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Desperately need help with 12 month old - off track 5AM wakings
« on: October 18, 2010, 14:19:18 pm »
I'm not exactly sure how it all started, whether it was teething or developmental milestone or growth spurt, but we are into day 11 of the 5-530AM wakings.

It did happen about 3-4 weeks ago when his top 2 teeth came in, but after 5 days he was back to normal, sleeping 11-12 hrs a night.

My son's normal schedule is as follows: (he will be 1 year on Sat Oct 23)

Wake 630ish.  Get up, bottle, breakfast, play
Morning Nap 9 or 930 for 1.5 hours
1230 Lunch, Bottle
Afternoon Nap 2 or 230 for 1.5 hours
Supper 545 or 6
630 Bath, Books, Bottle
7 Bedtime

My son has been CONSISTENTLY following this schedule since he was about 7.5 months and 99% of the time puts himself to sleep.  He'll generally wake between 615 and 645, so he is getting almost 12 hours a night and still naps well during the day.  Sometimes when we have a chaotic day or he doesn't have good naps, we need to help him fall asleep, but for the most part, he puts himself to sleep within 10-15 minutes of us laying him down.  It's been a really good schedule.

About 1.5 weeks ago is starting waking up at 5AM.  At first I thought it was teeth (like before) and I figured it would correct itself eventually.  We would go in upon his waking and try to put him back to sleep.  Some mornings he'd go right back to sleep and we could lay him down and he would sleep another 30-45 minutes.  Other days he would be sleeping so lightly I would have to just continue to rock him and let him sleep on my chest.  And finally, other days he just wanted to get up.  I tried my hardest to wait until 6AM before getting up with him and would delay the bottle until 630-7.  I know he's not waking because he is hungry, because even when I do give him the bottle he only drinks part of it and then wants to go and play.

We've tried shifting his bedtime earlier to 630 - doesn't work.  One day it got shifted later because of a late afternoon nap, and yes, he did sleep until 630, but didn't go to sleep until 8PM, so he still only got 10 hrs, which isn't 'normal.'  (if I can actually say anything is normal).  We've also tried to let him cry a few mornings, which doesn't seem to work either.  The other night he cried out a few times in the middle of the night (which he NEVER does) and we just left him and he fell back to sleep.

With the new 5 AM wakings, sometimes its 445 and sometimes its 530.  Whatever it is, it's TOO EARLY.  He has mostly maintained his schedule (see above), although nap times during the day are earlier now.  He seems to be napping well, in fact longer, probably to catch up on the missed sleep from the morning.  He is still consistently putting himself to sleep and consistently goes to bed at 7PM, putting himself to sleep.

So, now I think we've got a behavioural problem on my hands. 

I'm very stressed and desperately need help.  This was my last week at home with my son before returning to work and it's been a week of HELL.  I'm completely fried and exhausted and I'm starting to worry about my mental capacity upon returning to work.

Any suggestions?

One last thing, he was very wet this morning, peeing through diaper.  Perhaps this is contributing as well.  We are going to make changes to his bottle and amounts throughout the day so he's not getting so much right before bed.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.


A very tired mom. :-[

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Re: Desperately need help with 12 month old - off track 5AM wakings
« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2010, 21:12:46 pm »
DS started doing this and was still taking great naps. We only solved it by reducing the sleep he was getting in the day. If he has been on this schedule since 7.5mo he has most likely out grown it. I would reduce one nap to an hour for at least 3 days and see what you get. It took DS about 1 week to respond and start sleeping longer in the morning.

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Re: Desperately need help with 12 month old - off track 5AM wakings
« Reply #2 on: October 19, 2010, 18:14:53 pm »
khalam's mom has given some good advice here, it looks like with those molars came a developmental spurt that is requiring a tweak in daytime sleep.  let us know how you are getting along.

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Re: Desperately need help with 12 month old - off track 5AM wakings
« Reply #3 on: October 21, 2010, 01:39:29 am »
I believe he's having a growth spurt - I think.  The last couple of days he's drank a lot more milk than usually.  Sunday, he drank 20oz by noon, which is usually what he drinks in one day.  And today, I think he drank close to 30oz. 

The sleep issues finally broke Monday night.  Put him down at his usual time 7PM, and he slept until 745AM the following morning.  Very unusual, but obviously needed it.  Last night was back to normal too, 7PM-645AM.  Tonight we are having some issues - but I think it mostly has to do with me letting him nap until 430 and then trying to put him to bed at 7.  He was exhibiting all the usual sleep signs, but I guess it was too early.

It's 737 and he's still crying....hopefully he'll settle soon and have a good night.

Unfortunately, I'm not doing well.  I haven't gotten a good nights rest in 2 weeks, and it's really starting to affect me.  I've tried everything from baths, to tea, to going to bed early, melatonin, even sleeping pills - NOTHING works.  I desperately need some DEEP SLEEp.  I've had a headache for 3 days and my eyes hurt SO much.  I'm going to try another sleeping pill tonight and go to bed early.  Hopefully it works.

Thanks for the advice ladies.