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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #15 on: January 18, 2011, 16:08:21 pm »
For my daughter, we lived and died by the nap and bed time.  She was really affected if she missed it, her mood would be bad which didn't make any event we were at fun or it worth it.  She'd be that kid we'd have to drag out of grandma/grandpa's house screaming if we missed our window of opportunity to get her in the car.

For my son, we've been pretty lightened up from about the age of 1 honestly.  He's proven that so long as he is occupied and engaged his mood stays good.  Yes, we've had a few NW due to OT but frankly we get NW regardless so it is not typcially any worse then normal.  And yes, he may cry a bit when he gets into the car but with 1 exception we never had him screaming the entire way home.  It still makes me anxious because you never know, but we can have 1 day here or there with no nap or moved nap and just deal with getting him back on track over the next few days.  Ditto on the bed time.

I will say, I found with both that if they had a busy weekend or less sleep weekend it would be around Tuesday that you'd really see the full effect of them trying to make up for it in a longer nap or sleeping in etc.  Just have to sort of go with the flow a few days until you feel like sleep has been caught up.

Now that the kids have spent the night at Grandma/Grandpa's a time or two, DH and I just know that they will be OT when they get home and we'll have our hands full.  It is a huge trade off so my only suggestion is make it worth it  :)


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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #16 on: January 18, 2011, 16:09:49 pm »
When did you guys ditch the monitor full stop? 

We never used one with Masyn (small house, could hear everything from anywhere) and with Spencer I gave it to my sister when she was just over one...but I never used it as a sound monitor only for the movement alarm (though in a bigger house, the sound still carries enough that we can hear them from any room)
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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #17 on: January 18, 2011, 16:10:43 pm »
Regarding monitors, we took my daughters away around 18 months I think?  But she was such a better sleeper.  She got it back when DS was born so that she could call us without waking up the entire house.  So now both she and DS have a monitor and I don't see that changing any time soon, like, for years.  I'm addicted for sure and its my reassurance that if they need me, I will hear them (I am hard of hearing and DH works an off shift so they are in bed before he's home and I have a lot of anxiety that I'll miss them calling for me).


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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #18 on: January 18, 2011, 16:11:52 pm »
If I'm honest DH and I still hold our breath whilst staring at the monitor until we hear quiet lol 

Same here Wendy, same here...


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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #19 on: January 18, 2011, 16:17:12 pm »
I still stress out at 25 mo because I'm still always tired (health isn't good due to long sleep-deprivation, etc etc).

Oh missed this.  Yes that's mainly why I am so stressed.  Because I have my own health issues and sleep issues and it directly impacts me in a negative way if we are dealing with short nights or NW or whatever.  I just don't have the energy to devote to dealing with the aftermath of going off routine.  If I was doing better myself I'd probably be less panicky.  But for me a couple of short or interrupted nights and I am completely out of sorts myself.  It's tough :-( 
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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #20 on: January 18, 2011, 16:18:21 pm »
I still stress out at 25 mo because I'm still always tired (health isn't good due to long sleep-deprivation, etc etc).

Oh missed this.  Yes that's mainly why I am so stressed.  Because I have my own health issues and sleep issues and it directly impacts me in a negative way if we are dealing with short nights or NW or whatever.  I just don't have the energy to devote to dealing with the aftermath of going off routine.  If I was doing better myself I'd probably be less panicky.  But for me a couple of short or interrupted nights and I am completely out of sorts myself.  It's tough :-(  

Ditto this too.  Its put a full stop to any life outside of the home. (edit) and simple things like staying up late to watch a movie with DH, I'm afraid to because I don't know what sort of night it will be or when I'll be able to get sleep again.  And DS is almost 2 !!!
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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #21 on: January 18, 2011, 17:58:31 pm »
With T we stopped using the monitor when he was 6mos old.  Our house was really small and I could hear him if he needed me.  TBH, I hate hearing every little twitch and squeak, so stressful!  But now that we have an upstairs and downstairs, I still use it with F during the day when he`s napping upstairs and I`m downstairs. 
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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #22 on: January 18, 2011, 18:48:50 pm »
I have an addiction to my baby monitor.  I use it all the time when she is sleeping.  I travel with it and am actually considering buying one to travel with because it is a pain to travel with the home one and have to unplug and replug.



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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #23 on: January 18, 2011, 19:10:46 pm »
I use a monitor for both kids for naps. Jacob has been off the monitor overnight since about 6 mths old as I can hear him through the wall clear enough thank-you! Megan I have recently started turning off at night as well.

But my room is in the middle of theirs, and I'm a very light sleeper.

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Re: when did you "lighten up."
« Reply #24 on: January 18, 2011, 19:27:05 pm »
He's just so unpredictable that we have always been on edge with his sleep

uggh - us too and it sucks tbh!

I have to keep on routine or I pay for it with H but he is a true touchy sleeper.

We do have a monitor downstairs so we can hear him before we go to bed or for naps but at night I hear everything, it is the bane of my life. I so want to be a deep sleeper!




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