Help!
DD2 (3 months) is getting increasingly difficult to pat-shh. Here is our ideal EASY
E 0600
A
S 0730
E 0900
A
S 1130
E 1200
A
S 1330
E 1500
A
S 1630
A 1715ish
1745 bath
E 1800
Bed
At naptime I darken the room, put on White noise & put her in a sleepsuit. We sit down in a chair & have a cuddle. On a good day I would then put her in her cot, give her a kiss & leave her to go to sleep. Unfortunately this hasn't happened for a loooong time & instead I pop her on my shoulder & start pat-shhing. How long do you pat-shh for before giving up? What seems to happen most times these days is that she'll cry & cry, only stopping when she's fallen asleep on me. I can sometimes get her into her bed without waking, but even then I know she'll only sleep for 45mins max & all I've done is reinforce AP :-(
It's so frustrating because a few weeks ago she was managing to self-settle herself about half the time.
What am I doing wrong? The things I can think of are
A. She's got used to sleeping on me.
We had a rough patch a week or so ago where she kept waking so much in the night (every 45min/1.5hr) that she ended up in bed with me because I was worried I would fall asleep in the chair & drop her.
If this is true do I just have to persevere & hope it doesn't take too long to start working again?
B. She needs to increase her A time
http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=64158.msg476652#msg4766523 weeks ago, 1hr 20 was working well, I'm currently trying 1hr30. I start the wind-down about 15mins before then. (I'm having to go by the olock as i don't get many signs, sometimes a yawn, but not always) Increasing it again seems like a big jump?
C. She is so OT that even the perfect routine wouldn't work at the moment.
How can I get past this without AP? when DD1 was OT (she had colic) I used to push her in the pram for miles until she had "caught up", but DD2 doesn't sleep in the pram, or car seat...
D. My EASY routine is wrong
E. All of the above
Any suggestions on how to get out of this? I am so tired I'm finding it difficult to come up with a plan.