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What do I do?
« on: January 02, 2012, 19:37:41 pm »
DS is 22 mos. and in the last 2 days he has started screaming before naps.  Does this for a couple minutes before BT but for the naps this is new.  He has his hands in his mouth and tells us his mouth hurts so we are doing Motrin.  I've tried earlier PD, later PD, longer soothing routine, patting to sleep.  He just sort of pushes me away and says, "night-night".  I feel bad leaving him but yestereday, I PD he cried, played, cried and then I went up and patted him to sleep.  He then slept 40 min. woke crying but clearly still tired, he's never only napped for 40 min.  Tried patting again, rocking, laying down with him, rubbing his gums but he didn't go back to sleep and just cried.  He would close his eyes and drift off but then start the crying again if I stopped doing what I was doing.  He then slept 7:30-8am last night and wanted to go down at 12:30pm for his nap but has been crying from 12:45-now (1:15pm).  I went up once and he didn't want to be patted, held, anything.  Not sure what to do.  He finally fell asleep and slept 1:45-2:25pm (again 40 min) woke crying.  He doesn't seem to want comfort but if he's not feeling well then I don't want to do nothing.  He is clearly tired and needs more than a 40 min. nap.  Typical routine was:

Wake 7am or so
Nap 12:30-2:15ish
BT 7:30/7:45pm

Don't want to start bad habits but don't know what to do for him.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2012, 22:50:33 pm »
ANy ideas?

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2012, 23:07:08 pm »
hi there do you think it could be a touch of SA? Have their been any chages in his life such as moving/daycare/siblings, anything? If not, it still could be SA and he needs some reassurance. Does he normally settle independently? x
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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2012, 00:19:38 am »
No there have not been any changes going on.  Yes, he normally settles independently...about a month ago I added some shh/patting after I PD for naps to get him to be more settled b/c he was taking a long time to fall asleep.  That seemed to help for about 6+ weeks.  What do you suggest in terms of reassurance?  I just PD for BT early b/c of the short nap and he is screaming up there.  DH checked on him and he must have dropped his lovey but is still crying.  I've tried patting, shhhing, laying with him on our bed, retucking him in, reminding him it's night-night time and ignoring.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #4 on: January 03, 2012, 16:15:57 pm »
Any help is so appreciated?

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #5 on: January 03, 2012, 16:21:56 pm »
I'd say you need to pick one approach and stick with it, it'll only be confusing him if you bring him to your bed etc. We usually say WI/WO with LOs who have already learned to settle independently, but GW is a gentler approach. Have a read here:

http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=80750.0
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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #6 on: January 03, 2012, 17:57:31 pm »
What should I do after that 40 min WU time during the nap when I know he needs more.  Up until 3 days ago, he was going to sleep rather quickly and without fussing.  His nap lengths were about 1.5-2 hours.  This 40 min deal is perplexing to me.  He seems tired when  PD, rubbing eyes, yawning, etc.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #7 on: January 05, 2012, 16:24:38 pm »
What happens if you Pd later for that nap?
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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #8 on: January 05, 2012, 19:15:39 pm »
He plays and plays.  Almost like he gets a second wind.  Also, I need to PU DD at 3:40pm from school so can't let naps go later than 3:30pm.

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Re: What do I do?
« Reply #9 on: January 05, 2012, 22:28:46 pm »
Could the pain be more than teething? Maybe ear ache? It really sounds like he is in pain if he's waking at 40 mins and is still so tired :-\
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