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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #60 on: August 28, 2012, 06:43:29 am »
Hi Anna, well took your advice and placed little man in his cot. Kissed him goodnight and left the room. He screamed for about 30 seconds, then cried for no more than a min. I kept repeating 'its sleepy time now darling' and he stopped crying and laid down. Within 15 mins he was flat out! I cannot believe it.

He now sleeps from 8.30 til anywhere between 6 and 7.30, normally 7 ish. He also alwayys has a daytime nap (in his cot if at home). I let him have at least an hour sometimes an hour and a half so a huge improvement. I think previously I was told an houir and a half is about right. Its great, thank you all so much for support. Xx
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #61 on: August 28, 2012, 06:47:39 am »
Fantastic! Well done to you both! Just need to get Daddy confident doing it now, so you've some help when baby comes
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #62 on: September 12, 2012, 20:11:00 pm »
Hi Ladies, I know it's been a while since I last posted. Sorry for going quiet but it's been a bit of a rough time lately. However, I wanted to say a huge thank you for all your support. My little man is like a different person when it comes to sleep following your advice. He now goes down for mummy OR daddy without any crying. I can say good night at 8pm, give him a kiss, place him in his cot and walk out of the room. Within 10 mins he is always asleep. I normally wake him at 7am but occassionally he wakes before this.

He also naps in his cot - something he has NEVER done before. He will go down for an hour/hour and a half with no crying at all.

It really is life changing - thank you ladies. xx
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #63 on: September 12, 2012, 21:34:53 pm »
Lovely 2hear! Xx
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #64 on: October 03, 2012, 04:31:29 am »
Hi Ladies, back again for more advice.....

My third baby arrived 5 days ago so desperate to sort DS's sleep. We had managed to get to a point where we could place him in his cot, kiss him goodnight and walk away and he fell asleep independently. Over the past fortnight things have regressed. We are back to laying on the floor next to his cot until he falls asleep.

What is troubling me more is that he is completely resisting day time naps. The above method used to work for naps but now he will not nap in his cot in the day. We have had to resort to taking him out in the car to get him asleep and then transferring him to his cot. How do we get back on track with this?
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #65 on: October 03, 2012, 08:58:36 am »
Congratulations on the new arrival!! :-*

You know what you have to do - although I suspect with new baby here you are not in a position to tackle it :( Is your partner on paternity leave so that he can tackle it and leave you to just deal with the baby?

The way to get back on track is to be 100% consistent. You've seen it work in the past, you just have to go back to being consistent about it - totally understandable that things have slipped with the new baby. He's not going to just go back to sleeping independently and napping in the cot of his own accord, it will take a concerted effort, which is why I hope there's some support around to help you with him.
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #66 on: October 13, 2012, 15:08:00 pm »
Thanks for the congratulations. Well we've been consistent but the problem is getting worse. He literally screams and screams if I try to move out of his eye sight and he has also started waking in the night again. It always takes an hour at least to settle him back to sleep.

Between him and my newborn (16 days), I'm managing around 2 - 3 hours sleep a night in total and can't catch up in the day - I'm just exhausted. Any ideas?
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #67 on: October 13, 2012, 19:17:28 pm »
Dh take the nite wakings 4ur toddler. Thats what we did. Ds1 protested but after a few wks acepted it. After about 3mo my ds1 settld and adjusted to ds2 Xx
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #68 on: October 13, 2012, 19:23:36 pm »
Agree with j.and.e Also remember if he's overtired he's going to be way worse. How are you settling him to sleep for naps/bedtime/NWs now?
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #69 on: October 13, 2012, 20:53:05 pm »
I agree.  We split the NWs here too.  Its not possible for one person to do both.  Let DH deal with your toddler xx
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Re: 18 month old - no sleep pattern and doesn't go to bed until gone 10pm, need help
« Reply #70 on: October 13, 2012, 23:35:16 pm »
He settles for both bedtime and naps in his cot on his own. The problem is he has to have one of us visible to him - hence laying in his bedroom doorway. We don't seem to be able to move from that spot and out of sight. If he wakes in the night - its the same he's happy to stay in cot and doesn't cry but does keep talking to me and is happy as long as he can see me but if he hears me move hes up like a shot.

DH took over bedtime tonight and he settled within 25minutes but DH also had to be visible and ended up laying in the doorway. :)
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