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3 important questions!
« on: August 18, 2013, 23:19:53 pm »
Okay, so we just started PU/PD with our 1 year old DD.  She used to sleep fine and soothe herself well, but she was sick and then she got used to being held. 

It's been going well. but I have a few questions.

1) Is it normal that I'm the only one that can do it effectively?  She will not go down at all with my husband.  She'll just play the whole time with no signs of going down or even being tired, but then I'll come in and she's asleep within 5-10 minutes.  Should he continue to try or is that never going to happen?  Or maybe he should wait to try until she's better trained?
2) What are we supposed to do if she not crying, but actually playing?  Do we leave the room?  Do we just do PD?
3) One she goes down are we supposed to leave the room or keep a hand on her back?  I've read both.  I put my hand on her back and then she's fine.  If I don't then she'll wake up and cry.  I'm not sure if I'm supposed to just leave and then come back in and do PD after she cries or put my hand on her back until she's out and then leave.
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Re: 3 important questions!
« Reply #1 on: August 19, 2013, 08:35:05 am »
Hun I'm moving this over to Toddler Sleep since your baby is over a year old.
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« Reply #2 on: August 19, 2013, 08:50:29 am »
Since she's over a year old I wouldn't do PUPD, she was an independent sleeper so you would do Walk in Walk out instead.

If she's not crying, don't be in the room at all. Just leave her be until she's really crying.

With WIWO, you go in when she's genuinely crying, give her a quick cuddle, say your sleep phrase and help her lie down if you think she needs it, then walk out again (even if she immediately springs up and is still crying) and wait outside the door for a few moments and listen to what's happening. If she's still very upset, go in again and repeat. And/or you can try reassuring her with your voice from outside the door. My daughter hates WIWO, she gets furious, she settles much more quickly if I am outside the room but just repeat her sleep phrase until she settles.
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Re: 3 important questions!
« Reply #3 on: August 19, 2013, 21:33:35 pm »
Okay, I'll definitely try the WIWO.  She seems very comfortable with being put into her crib now.  She hardly ever cries.

I'm still concerned though that she doesn't go down with my husband.  Is that normal?  Should he keep trying?  It just seems like wasted time when he tries for 30-40 minutes and she plays the whole time.  Then I go in and she's down within 10 minutes.  She could have been down so much earlier!!  What should we do about that? At some point, I'm not going to be home and he'll need to put her down.
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Re: 3 important questions!
« Reply #4 on: August 19, 2013, 21:34:26 pm »
If shes playing, he should just leave her to it! Let her play until she either goes to sleep, or starts to cry!
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« Reply #5 on: August 30, 2013, 03:18:46 am »
Okay, here's an update and a new question.

Everything has been going really well.  She's going down really easily now.  My husband have even been able to put her down as of the past few days which has been great.

Tonight is a bit of a disaster and something we've never encountered before so I thought I would see what you think. 

She always goes down at 9pm and sleeps through the night.  She refused t go down at all.  Screamed and screamed and wouldn't even stop when we were holding her while we did the PU/PD, WIWO. Nothing calmed her down.  She seems to want to play.  So what do you do??  It's just odd cause her day was the same as it always is.  She ate well, napped well, had the same amount of activity. 

Any ideas?  We just don't know what to do with her right now.  We certainly don't want to condone playing, but she's never done this before so we're ill equipped!
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« Reply #6 on: August 30, 2013, 06:26:55 am »
Y'know, I don't know. They all have occasion nights like this, just get a dose of the crazies. I wouldn't worry too much unless it becomes a regular thing.

9pm is a pretty late bedtime, does she wake up later in the morning?
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« Reply #7 on: August 30, 2013, 16:40:41 pm »
She wakes between 8-8:30.  It seems to work for her.  We tried putting her down around 8 for a little bit and it just didn't seem to work for her.  Do you think it's okay since she's waking up later?
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Re: 3 important questions!
« Reply #8 on: September 03, 2013, 17:02:25 pm »
HI there, sorry not to have got back to you I have been away a few days.

If you;re happy with an 8.30-9 day, that's fine.
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