Hi Becky, Thank you for your reply.
I have to say it's getting better. the last 2 days were better. At least the naps. He doesn't fight so much and he sleeps longer. But BT still causes us some troubles. the last few days looked like this:
Friday
WU 6:05
N 1:45 (2,5hrs)
BT 8:55
No NW
Saturday
WU 6:24
N 1:05 (1h8mins)
BT 8:20
NW: 2:10-2:50
Sunday
WU 7:40
N 12:25 (25mins)
BT 7:35
NW 0:10-0:30 (he was thirsty)
NW2 5:20-5:30 (slept with us)
Monday
WU 6:40
N 12:50 (2h51mins)
BT 8:30
I'm trying GW as there is no chance for WI/WO. The minute I turn my back he hops off the bed. Even with the bars on he had two bars taken out for months so he was able to hop on and off the bed. I think putting them back will aggravate the situation. it looks like he's afraid of me leaving, so additional barrier between us would be worse.
As I said naps are better. We go to his room, put the blinds, read few books and go to bed. He lies in and I tell him a story about anything that goes to sleep (tractor, chicken, you name it). He listen to it, cries a little and goes to sleep. There is no such thing as falling asleep peacefully. He always cries. specially at BT.
In the evening we start our routine 6.30-7pm. Dinner and milk, bath, PJ, brushing teeth, stories on the rocking chair. then we put the blinds on, turn off the lights so he can see the stars, we say goodnight to the moon and stars (fluorescent ones on his ceiling and real ones outside if visible) and I put him to bed. and it starts. At first he's still OK but doesn't really want to lay down. He would start showing something repeating "there, there, there" He won't stop until I name the thing he's pointing at (guys, always so lazy. just name the thing yourself little man). He's just starting to say words so I can't really not reply to that. I just sit next to his bed on a chair. If he tries to get off the bed I intervene and lay him back down saying "it's sleepy time now" and I retreat to my chair. At which point he starts crying. We repeat the sequence several times with him getting more tired and cranky. He starts crying saying "mamamamama" with this sad desperation in his voice breaking my heart. But I just lay him down saying calmly "it's OK sweety, I'm right here if you need me, Mummy's right here". He grabs my t-shirt crying his "mamamama" not wanting me to go. The worst crying is just before he falls asleep. As if he feels the sleep is coming and he tries to fight it with all his might. If he'd just let go I'm sure he would fall asleep instantly. So the trick is to get him to stop crying. Before, it was enough to say: "shhhh have you heard that? the tractor just passed by. I f we are really quiet we may hear it coming back". It worked for months. But not anymore. When crying is getting really bad I ask: "do you want me to hold your hand or should I put my hand on your tummy?". He always picks the tummy and stop crying. But that brings me back from my chair to his bedside. He looks like falling asleep but 20s later he gets up crying and we repeat it again. Until he finally falls asleep. I try to leave the room for the last few minutes so he falls asleep without my presence there, coming back only when he cries.
He sleeps better at night. Last week he only NW 2 or 3 times. Most of the time he comes to our room. Basically he wakes up and with his eyes still closed he starts walking (and always finding way, amazing) and crying. Sometimes I'm able to put him back to sleep in his bed, only when he's not fully awake. Otherwise he ends up with us where he falls asleep immediately.
I got him Gro-clock back in March. He loves to play with it, he's the one to operate the buttons to put the sun to sleep etc. But when he wakes up he couldn't care less about it. As I said with his eyes closed it would be difficult. I have no idea how to get him to respect the clock.
He gets pain meds and teething gel. But it makes no difference to the way he falls asleep.
During the day we often play in his room and he would lay on the bed to play with his soft toys or cars. At that moment it's a funny place for him. But as soon as he has to sleep in there the problem starts.
I will be grateful for any ideas
